Hi
Nice to hear from you. We went for a second EP assessment for similar reasons to your own. For the EP test to be valid there needed to be at least six month gap between EP assessments.
If the school are mentioning statements then they are probably wanting specific support for your child which a statement can legally secure for him. The statement is reviewed each year, to determine if a statement is still required or not. All information is confidential, other parents should only know if you chose to share this information with them. I would guess that if a child has additional support in class then other children do notice. Our child has severe dyslexia, we thought it was best that he and his classmates understood that the reason why he had some difficulties in some lessons was because of the dyslexia and not that he had a dull brain (which is what he believed)and that he could learn. We did not have any problems with other parents or with his peers. I think they understood him more. He is learning strategies to cope with his dyslexia and he now sees that he has skills that some of his peers dont have. His confidence is growing daily.
IPSEA were very supportive with good advice about the statement process, so i would recommend you contacting them for advice.
The spectrum for specific learning difficulties is so vast, I think we can all recognise some aspects of ourselves and our children. Your little boy, sounds very similar to our little boy.
I think you need more information to help you make this important decision. The paeds and EP assessments will give you the information. It is best to have all of your childs strengths and limitations identified, so you know what needs to be included in the statement if you decide to go down this route. I found this inital process hard as it confirmed our fears that he was struggling and did need a significant amount of help.
If the LEA agree to a statement, make sure it reflects your childs needs and that there is adequate provision to meet his needs. This was a challenge in its self - but with help we achieve a good statement that adequately reflects his needs and the provision he requires. The statement process took just over a year.
Be positive, keep focused, you will make a difference for DS. Good luck!!!