So p*off to hear others telling me how bad their nt kids are...

[mysonben]

I am not saying NT children are always a walk in the park to raise. All kids can be a handful.

But my patience is wearing thin now, whenever i get to talk to someone else who has young kids they say "DS does this and DD does that! OMG, they don't listen to me! I can't bear these kids...blah blah"
Both one of my friend and my sis are the main culprits for it. Their issues with their nt kids sometimes seem trivial to me, and they make such a fuss of things.

I stay polite and stand there like a lemon, but i'm annoyed and want to shout.
I have plenty on my plate with DS (3.11, asd) and his problems, and some days i need to have the patience of a saint to get through bad patches (like now).

Am i over-reacting ?....probably.
I'm not saying no one else should ever tell me of their problems with their kids. I just wish they could see things in perspective really and not over do it, IYSWIM?

Do you get fed up with listening to NT kids issues from relatives and friends?
If you do, what do you say to them?

There is always someone worse off than you think you are too. I always think that is important to remember.

I remind myself of that when I moan about my problems. Difficult to live by that idea but my son does not have classic autism, neither does he have a life threatening illness, so the complaints I make can be viewed, I'm sure, as being equally trite by those parents of children who have more profound problems.

It's all relative.

I have bad days when I moan about thngs and listerning to other people with nt kids gets to me.

But because off DD i realie that while things might see normal someone can be struggling tocope with things.DD is nt in devlopment,other than her size but has a whole host of medical issues that are life limiting.Yet no one really sees that they all see Ds and his problems

i agree Debs what might seem trite to us tosomeone else it is a majour issue and who knows what else they are coping with behind close doors

We've had that brought home to us this year, Phoenix: dd's best friend lost her Mum after a very long illness, and I don't think dd has any doubts in her mind as to who has had the worst year.

One of her classmates in primary school was NT (afaik), but he had watched his dad murder his mum: that boy was pretty profoundly disturbed. Seen from that perspective, a wheelchair doesn't look too bad.

I agree that it is right to remember that there are people worse off and we are lucky to be a very happy family. But the reality is that I don't know any NT kids who are more difficult than DS, that's the truth. I don't spend much time complaining either, no point, but I did get a bit upset by the moaning of a load of princesses at DD's class coffee morning last week. Yet I still offer some of them lots of help with fetching and carrying as that's how I prefer to behave and won't let other people put me off.

I have a lovely friend whose DD has Retts Syndrome and she would LOVE her to be able to do lots of the things that DS can do, I try to support her as much as possible (as well as some of the princesses!).

No, I understand about people just being precious. The children I mentioned were children whose behaviour was quite challenging because of what they had been through. I think if you had seen the little boy in dd's class you would have accepted that he really was very difficult; he was expelled halfway through primary after (amongst other things) biting the headteacher.

Mysonben I haven't read all posts ...... but, I know a bit of where you are coming from. However, I would hate for my family and mates to treat me any differently because my ds has a dx. I enjoy hearing about their lives and kids, good and bad stuff. I want to be able to support my friends the way they support me. Everyone has challenges and stress and it's not for me to say whether mine is worse than theirs - we all live in our own bubble to some extent. Right now, my nt teenager is causing me far more trouble than my ds with ADHD That's not how it was suppose to happen!