trivial question about possible asd-typical behavior....

[colditz]

I fellover yesterday, really hurt myself, howling in pain.

Ds2 tried to pick me up by the head, was full of "Mummy, are you hurt-ed youself? Can oo get up?"

Ds1 continued to try to discuss the prices of scalextric in the argos catalogue, and I had to push it away to get him to shut up about it and get my phone (was stuck on floor)

he's six - how normal is this - how abnormal is this?

Be honest, please!

does he have ASD? if so i would say pretty normal to not understand others feelings but also normal behaviour of NT children at this age engrossed in there topic of choice

my ds has ASD but is concerned if i so much as knock my arm he rubs it better cries if i really hurt myself as he doesn't know what to do

what is he like usually? It is normal to sometimes (or even often) be pretty oblivious to other peoples needs if you are 6. Are you concerend for any otehr reasons? I'd certainly not worry about a one off and maybe he just isn't "the caring type" some peopel aren't.
Catkinq

a couple of years ago dd1 (ASD) wouldn't have noticed if I hurt myself, and woudl have wanted me to carry on reading/reciting/singing/whatever. She's 5, and over the last 18 months has really come on in her empathy/understanding of others' emotions.

dd2 however, is 2.7, and since she was about 12 months old has noticed and been upset if anyone around her is upset, and will (over the last 6 mmonths or so) now come up and give a hug or a kiss and say "all better now" or just a consoling pat and a "mummy, don't be sad" if I am looking distracted.

I've poured boiling water over myself and nobodies notivced, rehgardless of whether they are ASD, toddler, NT or fully grown male!

If I weren't to get slated, I'd suggest it might be a male trait but only becuase we are female free other than me

I would say its a male thing , both of my dd's are on the spectrum so i am unsure how a NT would react but my husband would react in a similar way.

Ds2 is 6 and has ASD. At school there have been a couple of times where someone has hurt themselves and ds2 has escorted them to the first aid room.

Until very recently my ds1 (ASD) would have carried on talking about pokemon. Lately though he has turned into a mother hen and does things like steering me away from the edge of the pavement if he thinks I'm too close to the road. If he was absorbed in something pokemon-related, he probably wouldn't hear the howling in the first place.

I think personality must play a part in it too. Ds2 is never one to miss out on potential drama so at the very least would expect a full rundown of the injuries involved.