You know, I ask myself this question sometimes (usually once a month at that time) and 99% of the time I do feel lucky that we (ds and I) have a home, food and we're relatively healthy.
Recently, my Dad wanted to take ds out to Legoland without me - in a group of others and I said no way would that be a good idea. He is ok on a 1-2-1, but gets over excited and totally out of control when there are other children around. My Dad said that I was over reacting and was wrong, that he could cope and that ds would be absolutely fine....
Today, my dad and sister took ds and nephew to the zoo....bad move. They had a terrible day with him and he was really hard work. They were knackered when they came home and Dad said he would never take ds out again.
Now compare that to yesterday - my Dad took ds to the local park, and taught him to ride a bike without stabilisers in the morning (I was gobsmacked!). He then went to a cycle route opening event where ds made a small speech and cut the ribbon to open the route and had his picture taken for the newspapers. He loved the attention of course - who wouldn't - and coped really well.
Two completely different days and of course no one at the opening would have ever guessed that he has AS/ADHD. They just wouldn't have recognised him as the same boy if they had seen him at the zoo today!
Bloss, I'm being rather round the houses here, but what I am trying to say is that we are more aware as parents than anyone of our children's SN's and then in turn worry about them - it's only natural. I really wish I could be more relaxed and laid back like Lou and Thomcat, but it is in my nature to worry about my little man. I can see he has made terrific progress even since starting his new school after Easter, but still I worry.
As the saying goes - some days you're the pigeon - some days you're the statue, but that does apply to parents with NT children too.
I wrote on my calendar that ds learned to ride his bike for the first time unaided and I am so proud of him - it is a real accomplishment, and a massive one for him and I am very proud of my little man.
I have droned on for long enough Bloss, and waffled alot, but do you see what I am trying to say...or have you fallen asleep yet? x