Do you ever feel pressurised? What would you do?

[mummytopebs]

Health visitor came out last week re dd 4.6, asked how she was doing etc. I mentioned that dd is still in pull ups on the night, she is dry but has night terrors around 3 times a week where she loses bladder control. The health visitor said to try and take the pull ups off. Well we have had 2 dry nights as she doesent wee in the night but then the last 2 nights she has had night terrors and lost bladder control. What should i do put her back in the pull ups as i know she is dry anyway or leve her without. You sometimes feel so pressurised to convert to the 'norm'

I thought wet beds were considered the norm until at least 7?

Wet beds are the norm i suppose but she has 3 night terrors a week so that is 3 times a week so dont know if it is worth taking her out of the pull up

I would let your dd keep her pull-ups, for your sanity and her comfort. at your hv, she is an idiot, feel free to ignore her advice unless you actually agree with her!

I would put her back in pull ups, ...until she can control her bladder when she has night terrors. Hopefully she may have less and less nightmares and then you can try again.

A well meaning nursery nurse told me at the clinic a couple of weeks ago to stop giving ds 's milk in a bottle , that he was too old for it (he is not yet 4) and that dd (16m) was too old for it too!!!

I do not see a problem with the pull up really she is dry on nights apart from when she has her terrors, She is around 18 months behind emotionally and socially anyway according to paeditrician so i dont think there is any hurry. You just feel like you are doing things wrong sometimes x

keep her in them
dd is 14(cp) and dry day and night........unless I don't put her in a pull up at night(no idea why) so who cares. do what iS best for you.

Health visitors are there to offer advice.

You are the parent, you listen to all the advice you are offered then make your own informed decision. If you don't like the advice, ignore it! - whether its from the HV or your mother! Thats what I do.

I understand totally how you feel, but as the others have said you need to do what you think is best for your child.

No pressure, during the day yes, but not night time. He still uses them as pants when his awake. He is not bothered that he is wearing pull-ups, when he does, i will change, but he is 50:50, and I think their are enough other things to keep me busy.

I went to stay with a friend at the weekend and her bright, happy, incredibly clever 8 year old son had pull-ups on of a night time. She is completely unbothered by it.

DS2 is 2.5 and NOWHERE near ready for potty training, but I do get some funny looks. We were on holiday last week and on the way back we stopped at a service station so I could change him. I went to use the baby change and the lady behind me muttered something about being too big etc. It makes me so

bloody hell Frasersmum123 I don't know any NT 2.5yo boys who are potty trained! (my NT dd potty trained at 2.9 & she was pretty average amongst her peers).

My son is 2.10 & even my MIL realises he's nowhere near being ready ... it is way down our list of priorities atm.

The service station lady is bonkers - DS2 is 2.9 and just about ready now.