programme on bbc about autism

[beverleyjayne]

hi everyone just seen this on another board!
next tuesday at 9pm on bbc3, it looks to be very interesting.

will try a link
www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b00m5jb4

hope that worked

bev

G is taller, heavier and stronger than me, which is why I much prefer to anticipate problems and deal with them.
If that's not possible and he's in full meltdown, then I can handle him and restrain him. It takes confidence and a knowledge of correct procedures otherwise he'd get hurt. On occasion I have wrapped round him and used my weight to drop him onto the bed when I can then hold him until he's regained a little sentience and is less likely to cause harm to himself or others. Not had to do that for over a year and a half now. but being tuned into him is the best way of avoiding him being pushed that far.
He knows how to back away from stressful situations and how to anticipate problems. The difficulty comes when one or all of his options are closed down, either by an aggressor or by a well-meaning person who isn't listening to him.
Then he'll escape and run, through whatever is in the way.

Great to hear all your positive stories of how well your older dcs are doing. It is just hard to picture the future, and I usually just focus day to day. I think the key is support, support, support and understanding.

I too found the older two boys in the show really quirky and determined, hope they both find what they need. The autistic girl on the show seemed really sweet too.

Tom's situation made me feel so sad. Did you hear someone on his house (maybe a brother in the background?) call him a retard during a row? Also he explained if he drank he felt more confident, I think I would be discouraging that TBH, he seemed to be sat on his own for most of the night of his brother's party drinking. He was so desperate for some space and freedom wasn't he? My DS loves to spend a lot of time on his own and do things for himself now and he is only four! My heart went out to him at the end explaining why he had done the show - he knew noone understood him and didn't want others to go through the same.

is this programme a series i wasn't brave enough to watch last night so taped it and it said programme or whole series not sure if it will be different things each week and just covering autism this week

will watch it later but some part of me is scared to watch it in case i see that ds may never grow to be independent i know all children are different anyway but i have slight fear in seeing the unknown but tonight i shall brave it and watch it and no doubt be in tears like a lot of the others

bubblegirl- i think its a series about teenagers/young adults but only one program on Autism. I think you can watch it on i-player, its worth watching but also scary to see what our children could be like when they are older. 2 of the boys were great and if my dd's turn out like them i will be proud, the other boy had a lot of problems and seemed unhappy, he craved some freedom but his mum found it hard to give him the freedom he felt he needed.

i taped it marne but i guess its the fear of the unknown on how ds may be worse case iykwim i'm going to watch it tonight if i can pluck up the courage lol i guess now ds speech has come along and he seems to want to interact with others i have high hopes for him

HFA and AS are usually categorised as the same condition PipinJo.

As and HFA are different, dd1 has AS (great speech) ,dd2 has HFA (poor speech), i was told by the pead that the difference is the speech.

HFA and AS are usually categorised as the same end of the spectrum some confusion goes for AS and HFA as only language setting them apart yet now know of quite a few AS children who have speech delay i think depends who dx to be honest and who they follow in regards of dx one or the other my ds is HFA with poor speech delayed poor speech sound etc

Hi i missed this last night a girl at work asked me today if i watched it is it repeated at all does anyone know

ive just watched it and well oli {HFA} i was so chuffed off he trots all over the place and great road awareness there is hope for ds yet then and yes fantastic communication

i wanted to grab poor tom and knock his dad out on the way his attitude to his son was horrible and i would never dream of calling my son what he did
he to me came across as a solem teenager really typical teenager like the one from kevin and perry lol he was adorable yes a bit snappy at times but i know nt children that were worse ok we didnt see what he can be like every day but surely if someone doesnt like certain things you make there life more comfortable rather than go in and bug them all the time

even at 4 i know when to leave my ds alone to gather his thoughts he comes back when his ready

i cried when he said to stop people taking the piss he just seemed like he was so down at home with his fights with his dad and from school from being bullied poor thing lets hope that school will be good for him

was well worth watching

i may have to take back the knocking his dad bit out as just re watched it and cant see who called him that horrible word but i would like to take his dad to one side and educate him rather than use violence lol and who ever called him that name

oh tc what's troubling you? we do need to raise awareness i loved the programme i think i should have written my post this morning instead of last night lol

i found it very touching and made me feel quite sensitive but i see it differently this morning not everyone can accept that there child is different and i guess were blessed to have accepted and embraced the challenge the programme showed obviously one family split in two with the management of there child and ways of dealing with him which was sad though as he just feels his dad doesnt like him and wants to be strong to fight him back,

one who's mum just is there all the time and not really letting him do things alone accept work

and the other who gives her son alot of freedom to go off and be independent we all have different children and we all handle them differently too which shows in how they grow up very eye opening to my own protectiveness of my ds but i do also give alot of freedom to explore and learn on his own

I started watching that but turned over because it made me cry! I am ok atm but I am terrified of the future. When they are men and I can't be their buffer iyswim. I am so scared of how the world is going to treat them.

Tclanger I almost started a thread on 'going public' because DH has accepted invitations to participate in a couple of public debates about autism and services and possible reforms (it's connected to his job, but he's going in his capacity as parent iyswim) and my mum has gone all ballistic on us because that means 'coming out', why would we want to expose DS to the public eye and let everybody know that he has a label, etc. A magazine article is of course greater exposure than a public debate - anyway, DH's line is that it is important to discuss these things, and also that a lot of parents of kids with 'special needs' or indeed with ASD don't have the luxury of 'staying in the closet', so 'coming out' for him marks some kind of solidarity with, say, the parents on our Hanen course whose kids had classical autism.
Don't know if that makes sense - I'm glad they didn't ask me to do public anything, because things feel still a bit raw, I'd just cry at some crucial moment...