My ds has cerebral palsy and epilepsy, but also has sld. He has no speech, but uses some makaton signing.
He used to be a lovely lad but now he is 10 his behaviour is appalling.
The usual triggers are when it's time for the toilet (he needs help to access the bathroom and toilet, help with clothes etc as he uses a wheelchair). Other triggers are getting to the table for any meal, but breakfast is the worst.
The main feature is that he will get angry and hit out when I ask/tell him to do anything that stops him doing what HE wants to do. So that mainly is all of the morning chores before school. Or toilet/shoes/coat before going out.
All of the usual methods of discipline do not have any effect, and usually wind him up even more. My usual methods are to send him to his bedroom to calm down. He does calm down, but he will kick off again as soon as he is back out of his bedroom.
I cannot reason with him.
When he starts getting cross, he shouts, screams, hits, bites, kicks and spits at me.
My dh usual response is to pick him up (he's only little) and put him where he should be ie. kitchen table or toilet.
I can't do that, he's too big for me. So I have no method whereby he will calm down and comply.
It's getting to the point where I end up in tears every day, I dread his behaviour. I can't cope with it.
Has anyone got any tips for me to be able to cope, and help him to learn that these tasks need to be done every day?
Thank you.