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DS1:
at birth obviously different, by two seen by GP for probable ADHD; whilst waiting in surgery he ahd created so much devastation that without knowing why we were there GP had filled in referral form by the time we got in there!
Seemed to lsoe a bit of that as he aged so didnt follow that up but became incredibly ahrd to aprent, I wont go into how hard, too distressing to remember those times.
At 4 referred at school request, Paed watched twenty minutes in office, tells us possibly asd but not curable so will discharge bye bye (!!)- severe school issues starting at this point
At 6 in a new school after move, we get referral locally as school problems now disastrous. paed puts assessment plan into practice: a sped up one as school falling apart and statement needed desparately. DS1 seen by SALT, OT, PT, Ed Psych, priovate appointment with BIBIC lasting 3 days for assessment atken into account, two further visits to Paed and a dx is given aged 6; 3 years on is clearly the right diagnosis as he fits the stereotype more every day and his additional issues are easier to separate down.
DS3- nothing obvious at birth, easy baby but tehn so was ds2. talking quite well at 2.5, lost it all just before he was 3. Failed HV checks but HV said 'its obvious he could do it if he wanted'- alter find out she started furious letter writing that day but go no response to pleas for help for ds3. We were just getting ds1's dx and we didnt see it (terrible aprents ) so it was the school nursery that alerted us at 6.5, though by then we realised he did need a lot of extra help- thought it was due to being a late July baby. At first appt paed told us probably asd, but due to langauge issues he was assessed regualrly (SALT weekly) over 2 y4ears in which time an verbal dx was given twice but removed due to is it asd or sld concerns: SALT refused to take ds at tehir school due to signs of asd, but Paed referring back there. Eventually we had an appointment where ds3 had clearly gone down the asd route and we were asked to aprticipate in a software trial to try and pare things down (ds3 would have possible had a dx of GDD apart from he walked a few weeks too early for target). Nobody had experience of ds3 pre-regression so struggled to get people to accept jhis 'former self' as it were. I still remember psoting here when he was referred and a poster saying she didn't realise we ahd concerns. Anyway, software appt took hours and several Dr's- each with a report from SALT etc which was also worked from, by now SALT had said ASD, OT ahd identified serious sensory problems- we all knew I think. Questionanire apred things down, confirmed asd diagnosis completely, given that day.
So took yeras upon years, and a few weeks after ds3's dx we were invited to a meting at schoola nd the long drawn out quest to see if ds2 has dyspraxia began. Feels a bit like ebing hit repeatedly by a lump hammer but as my guess is that ds4 will one day turn out AS (instinct only) I doubt it's over yet. I hope it is, though.