Electra didnt even cross my mind LOL! Can't see anything in your messages to suggest that
if by classic ASD you eman the level of the most severe then absolutely my boys don't have anything like the same issues, thet do have severe issues though. I should point out whilst ds1 is HFA / AS, ds3 is more severe- has very significanllt delayed speech, probably will need care all his life etc. Not the most severe but my definition of severe hinges on whether lifelong care is needed, for ds3 it is.
DS1's issues are different: eating disorders (so I guess technically life threatening but I try to forget that), aggression- he gets HR care DLA and absolutely so, but from an incredibly different viewpoint- he gets it brecause he needs 24/7 supervision as he is a danger to others and himself (starts fires, attacks people etc).
Anyway thats all irrlevant......
Mysonben,, yes that is what I meant- as they aged the stuff clouding the DX seemed to fall back whereas the ASD traits came to the fore; especially with ds3 as he became mroe able to demonstrate things such as flapping, routines, stims etc (has passive ASD though that is becoming less pronounced as time passes in favour of more standard ASD).
Lingle, I probably agree but think my area is a bit different- categorically nobody ehre gets a dx that young, its something i've only encountered on MN. DS3 didn't regress until almost 3 anyway (just amde it into the timescale). I do think it's very young for an asd dx, OTOH there's a big part of me thinking if the only way to access SALT / earlybird / etc (all things we didnt get until post-dx) was to have a wrong DX I could be tempted, but thats as someone who sin't dx focussed, my links with the asd field are so old (I worked with asd young adults at 19) that I see it as no more than a functional title that enable me to get the boys help. I've a good understanding of labelling theory through psych at Uni, but whilst I understand its incredibly emotive to some poeple, thats just not my experience I guess.
We ahd to wauit 3 years whilst ds3 floated between a DX of ASD and SLD; both services refused support - sld don't see kids with a possible asd dx, and vice versa. Just 3 days ago I finally received the letter (dated fenruary) formalising his DX and for us its a ticket to SS support, naming it in hsi statement, etc- all things he ahs been denied repeatedly.