Thank you so much DLI. I think, like you, I have thought nothing of a lot of DS's behaviours which, when looked at from an outsider's point of view, are not actually as common and 'normal' as I thought.
He needs to always physically touch me and stroke me if he's near me, but can flip out and arch his back if the staff at school try to touch him.
He claims toothpaste burns his mouth and seems in physicla pain if there is too much toothpaste on his toothbrush.
He is a thrill seeker, I thought it was normal boy behaviour but have recently realised none of his friends are like this and display far more caution.
He flips out if anyone mentions putting a plaster on any cut he ever gets and will not ever allow me to clean a cut or graze.
He was selectively mute at nursery and refused to join in any activities, singing, games or music, prefering to play alone.
He hated tumble tots and other toddler groups as a toddler.
He will not go into a room with an 'entertainer' at children's parties, and keeps well away from clowns.
If someone does something funny he holds in any smile or laugh, or turns his back in order to smile (so they don't see). This doesn't apply to me or close family though.
He can't seem to heaar instructions if he's in a large group (hence the trouble at school)
He spins, and if he can't spin himself he spins anything he can lay his hands on instead.