My son is 2.9. He was born with a tongue tie which was released late. He is a late talker and is having speech therapy. Communication however, is rarely a problem as he is very good at getting others to understand him (especially children). Otherwise he is attaining his normal milestones.
He goes to a nursery where the manager seems convinced there is something rather wrong with him. At her insistance we took him to see: the HV, a paediatrician at the child development centre, speech therapist (privately as NHS waiting lists are so long - ouch at £65 ph) all who said yes he is speech delayed but otherwise functioning well (slightly above his age). Despite of this the manager still thinks something is wrong and wanted him to be seen by the early years inclusion team so she could get extra funding for him. I was reluctant but agreed as she explained this would enable the staff to spend more time with him and the other children would not miss out. I made a condition that I wanted to meet the person from the SEN team and wanted to be there for the assessment. She agreed.
Today, after I collected my son from his 3 hour stint in nursery I received a phone call at home from the SEN person who had done the assessment today at nursery with the nursery manager! She would like to meet me in a few weeks time to tell me about it... I expressed my surprise and distress about not being involved and am told it is the way they do it.
The nursery manager later rang and was evasive about not involving us saying she had forgotten she was coming, mix up over messages etc. DH was at the nursery for ages this morning with her discussing voucher payment schemes with the said manager and I was there for at least 10 mins at pick up and yet nothing was said.
I am so upset about this and feel the manager has deliberately left DH & I out of this important assessment.
Please can anyone help?