could my dad be on the spectrum?

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hiya, ( drlove is my usual name),ive been wondering for a while ,my dd4 is waiting assessment from the autism team, and i wonder if its been passed down to her. my dad isnt very good at mixing with people and often has "obssesions" .The marked thing is he moved to new zealand and forgot to tell anyone.... and is puzzled why its nessecary to inform people.... he also has OCD and does stimming (although i didnt realise thats what it was until recently), rocking back and forth with head covered( could be hands/blanket/jacket ,ect). he's now based on a very remote highland place with one pub/shop and few people.So , whats your opinion on this? could he be asd?

Could be, I don't think there's much doubt that autism can be heritable (tho' no-one's sure exactly how}. Since my son's dx I'm looking at myself and our family with new eyes and in fact my half-brother is now seeking a dx for himself (and I'm pretty sure he'll get one too).

absolutely could be!

Im certain that both MIL and my father have ADHD, and DS1 has it too. DS4 has ASD and DS5 is looking that way too...

Sounds likely doesn't it!
FWIW we are pretty sure DH has ADHD. There are plenty of family members with lots of ASD traits, but no-one with enough for formal diagnosisi I suspect.

Yes could be

, thanks for the replys ladies!.my aunt suggseted it , and it looks like she's right. . . . . how do you go about getting a dx for a 53 year old boy then?

My DP defo has some form of ASD- he is very succesful at work and incredibly intelligent, but has no social skills what so ever. He can't even chat to people (like picking up from school etc)
God knows how we managed to get it on!!

My dp shows a lot of ASD traits, sometimes i see traits in myself and my father also shows a lot of traits so i can see it on both sides.

I agree it is highly likely to be hereditary. I can certainly see it in my younger brother, who had speech issues until he was around 4/5, and even then the only one who could understand him was me,he stuck to me like glue all through primary, and had lots of stims. I had alot of social issues, and still do, and strongly suspect I am on the spectrum. My younger sister I suspect has dyspraxia and was known as the clumsy one, but was socially very succussful. My elder brother possibly has aspergers. My nephews all seem to be on the spectrum. My sons are. Dh, we suspect has adhd, he is the most social of the both of us and understands my problems and attempts to explain to me social rules, aswell as why they are necessary.
As you can see, I have thought long and hard about this. I am tempted to try for a diagnosis, because I am affected in my adult life, very restricted, and really, without my lovely dh, would not cope.

i was seeing a guy for a few months last year who was very intelligent, (he was a doctor) but had no friends, got ridiculously upset and in tears if he thought he had done something wrong, liked to be in control all the time, would flap his arms and shudder if he got excited/carried away when talking about a subject (usually cricket!)
i asked him about it and he said his dad did it too, as i got to know him more, more "behaviours" came out, he was also vehemently against having kids, from reading posts on this board i now wonder if he was on the spectrum, knew it, but just didnt want to admit it?

shame, as it could have been something we might have been able to work round if he had been upfront about it, its only now that i realise it could have been something ASD related but at the time he just came across as a bit weird IYKWIM?

Just want to add that asd can be hereditary but it can also be random. I think the current statistics are that less than 5% of asd is inherited. We just have to be a bit wary here of assuming it is always genetic.