Very unhappy 12 year old - aspergers?? almost seems bi-polar? sometimes ADHD?

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I am a regular name changed as in early stages of seeking help

ds has always had aspergers tendancies but due to sudden and very aggressive outbursts we have sought help and possible diagnosis

we have suggested aspergers due to obsessional behaviours eye contact issues and distinct lack of empathy in all areas ...other symptoms he is displaying are serious egocentrism..everything is about him whether he is in the room or not he thinks we are talking about him...

we reallty know nothing about it but have started reading more - i find it upsetting as it sounds a lot like him

he has also started funny quiet voices or very well annunciated voices (both of which he uses when stressed or bad tempered)

tonight he had been bubbling under and was literally hyper after dinner running round naked singing loudly giggling etc but when i told him it was time for bed - shouted and swore' what the hell for' etc and when i tried to talk it though ten minutes later he was rude and hurtful ( quite vindictive and vicious)

What does this sound like??

I take it all very much to heart and feel like a lovely weekend is ruined as he is in his bedroom simmering and seething with vitriol........

I have tried to talk to him like i said to dispel the situation but he is so cutting i find i have to leave it - before things progress...

I dont know why i am writing this but need to air things....the mental health team are very slow and i said i was struggling

tia

Hi
You are right to air things -I think it's so important not to bottle things up.

My dd (8) has various dx -Sensory Processing Disorder, ocd, dyspraxia,non-verbal communication disorder. I found the time leading up to her dx the most difficult and confusing.

Which route have you taken for advice? We went through a child psyc and Occ Therapy. The waiting aroung for appointments is really frustrating,isn't it?

In the meantime, there are a lot of lovely, experienced people on the SN board who wi be able to offer you advice and support. Good luck.

i just went to gp and then mental health services came out...no idea qualifications of person that came ...said 'clinician'

thankyou for answering

It might also be worth having a word with your ds' teacher, if you haven't already -my dd's referral to local CAMHS was made by her headteacher. She was depressed and 'high' alternatively and talked about killing herself.

Someone gave me a great piece of advice when we first looked for help. She has a son with ASD and said that in order to get help, I would have to become a 'squeaky wheel'. She was so right- I have become a PITA when it comes to chasing up appointments and reports.

thank you sibling rivalry that is very helpful, might well ring tomorrow

Good luck, I would be interested to hear how you get on. Keep your chin up.x

thanks - they came out a couple of weeks ago and since then nada!

Sadly, that doesn't surprise me. I've never been an assertive person, but I got totally p'd off with the hanging around and poor communication. I'm sure the receptionists at the Child Development Centre recognise my voice now!

hello all

i contacted the mh team today just to 'touch base' and was informed ds case worker away now for 2.5 weeks so would contact us on return

so stuck my neck out a bit and said i needed to talk to someone

6 hours later at 5.20 pm a lovely woman rang me and was great! She told me where his assesment was up to and gave me a few strategies based on the very quick read she had and what i was saying...

my faith is restored

she basically told me to keep it simple - work on containing his outburts..

she said if what i had told her was as bad as it got then it wasn't bad at all (which i feel is positive) and was quite blunt but fair!!!

( she said i sounded articulate and not to be overly so with ds - which i accept )

so all in all - I am pleased!