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so DD was abandoned at school today

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jenk1 · 05/05/2009 21:50

she was taken to the toilet by one of the lsa,s and left there, she missed play time at lunch.

she has hemiplegia and wears nappies.

another child heard her crying and brought her out to a dinner lady.

the headteacher was waiting in a bit of a fluster for us at home time,he said she,dbeen left for 5 mins and he was extremely sorry.

but it couldnt have been 5 mins because she missed play time after lunch which is at least half an hour.

im torn between feeling and

DD said she cried on the toilet and wiped her own tears and managed to put her nappy back on but its ok because the lsa said sorry and asked could they be friends and gave her a sticker.

this is the same lsa who forgot to give her her medication last week.

am not so sure what to do about it.

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daisy5678 · 05/05/2009 21:53

No, I'm not sure either.

I think a meeting about how they will meet dd's needs in future and is a full time LSA and Statement necessary or are they going to make sure that this doesn't happen again and how?

Poor you and her.

5inthebed · 05/05/2009 21:54

Jenk thats terrible!

I would definitely complain about the LSA, especially as it isn't the first time it has happened.

Your poor DD

Hassled · 05/05/2009 21:55

That's appalling - a sticker from the LSA and a flustered apology isn't good enough.

Your council will have an Area SENCo. Ring Children's Services and ask to leave a message/speak to them. And say what you've said here.

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jenk1 · 05/05/2009 21:58

CAMHS are going in tomorrow,as they are assessing her for ASD.

we have a meeting next week with the consultant and also the paediatrician so im going to bring this up with them.

The headteacher was saying she would need support in year 1 and that he wants to call a multiagency meeting as soon as camhs have finished their assessment,we have to go the week after next to get the results and hopefully the dx,so the meeting wont be until after half term.

have been crying thinking of dd sat on the toilet,she is so passive and wouldnt think to get off and tell someone,she just sat there crying.

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lisad123 · 05/05/2009 22:22

need to meet with the head imo. If they take a child on with extra needs they need to be abe to support that child. If she needs 1-1 at lunch time then they need to give her that. I would kick up a fuss, I know easier said than done, I find myself in tears whern in angry
Poor dd, hope shes ok.

r3dh3d · 05/05/2009 22:31

jenk, I'm really upset for you. Poor DD. I think I'd kick up a fairly enormous stink until they come up with a plan that guarantees this will never happen again. It's not just going to the loo, is it? Where did they think she was? How do they know she is safe if they don't even notice she is missing?

What do you think the underlying problem is? Do they not understand/appreciate her needs? Are they understaffed? Is this particular LSA just completely useless and shouldn't be allowed near her?

SirSupportman · 05/05/2009 22:31

Everyone makes mistakes and forgets things but forgeting something important like medication and leaving a child on a toilet and forgetting them goes a bit further than that. I would complain and make sure that someone helps her who can remember these basic things.

SparklyGothKat · 05/05/2009 22:42

where the hell was the LSA? She must have started the job so where did she go??? You do not leave a child who needs support like that.... report her... for you

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jenk1 · 05/05/2009 22:45

am firing off an email right now to the head and am enclosing a diary that i have been keeping about what has been happening at school since feb, no doubt he,ll be on the phone first thing or will be waiting for us tomorrow morning when we drop her off.

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Hangingbellyofbabylon · 05/05/2009 22:50

so sorry to hear this, can feel your pain as can I can imagine how I'd feel if my own dd was left in this sitution. Your dd did so well to get her own nappy on poor little love. I'm glad you're taking it further there is no excuse for that to happen ever.

saintlydamemrsturnip · 05/05/2009 23:23

good grief jenk

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jenk1 · 06/05/2009 08:32

have sent an email to the head,am going in to school shortly so no doubt he,ll be waiting for us,not going to let this go until they come up with a plan, we want to see IEPs etc (they havent produced any up to now which is terrible) and the SENCO and im going to phone the nice lady from parent partnership as well.

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TotalChaos · 06/05/2009 08:37

there's mistakes and then there's mistakes. sounds like you need a competent LSA.

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jenk1 · 06/05/2009 14:08

school have been very quiet,no email back or waiting to speak to us this morning.

hmmm wonder whats going on?

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amber32002 · 06/05/2009 14:48

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jenk1 · 06/05/2009 14:53

well seeing as ive had no response from school, ive contacted the private psych who dx,d DD with PDD-NOS (camhs consultant is on holiday).

he said:

Get them to arrange a multi agency meeting ASAP.

DO NOT go to a meeting about this incident as they will try and sweep it under the floor,it needs to be documented in a meeting especially as they dont seem to want to reply to my email.

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amber32002 · 06/05/2009 14:57

It's just awful that you and your dd have been through this

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jenk1 · 06/05/2009 15:06

i know amber,but the worst bit for me is imagining her crying on the toilet and wiping her own tears
(she always asks for someone to wipe her tears,its part of her calming down routine) and not being able to go and tell a teacher,just stuck there because she wouldnt know what to say.

Then for school to say it was only 5 mins when it wasnt it was more like half an hour.

its just a good job that the older girl who found her is one of her playground buddies who knew that DD shouldnt have been there on her own and took her to a teacher.

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amber32002 · 06/05/2009 15:15

That's made me cry too, and I don't often do that.

Bobblebuddy · 06/05/2009 15:26

Me too. It is heartbreaking. glad you have the dr on your side and your dd is v lucky to have such a caring mom (((both of you)))

Yurtgirl · 06/05/2009 15:59

Thats really sad Jenk

Deeeja · 06/05/2009 16:20

This is awful, your poor dd>

bullet123 · 06/05/2009 16:30

Poor little lass . I remember when I was 11 I was in the chorus line for a school production and I missed the opening of the second act because, I, erm, got lost behind the stage . I burst into tears as soon as I saw my sister as I hadn't been able to ask for help.

slightlycrumpled · 06/05/2009 17:25

Oh my goodness thats terrible.

What a brave little girl you have. I would be upset too if it was my child in that situation. In fact it's one of my biggest fears at school, ds2 also has full time support.

(((((hugs)))))

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jenk1 · 06/05/2009 17:53

Well still no word from school about our email.so i shall print it off tomorrow and hand it in just in case they say they didnt receive it.

Today the 2 senior LSA,s looked after DD with regards to meds and toileting which we are happier about.

the younger LSA apologised again to DD and said she was very very sorry, DD says its ok because if you say sorry it means it will never happen again.

CAMHS were meant to be in observing today,but i asked DD had anyone been to class and she said no-but they could have been keeping a very discreet distance.

shes happier today though.

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