Ask Amber

[misscutandstick]

I was looking for the other thread, but couldnt find it - but couldnt find the carkeys or my brain this morning either , so im probably not looking hard enough!

anyway

before i "ask amber" i wanted to say, I am not ashamed of you, i would not want to hide you away, you are the very essence of life itself, and I trust and respect you. You are a wonderful and lovely person, I like you just the way you are. It really IS okay to be you. X

DS4 and DS5 have more than a passing resemblance to having ASD of some sort. Ds4 was 4 yesterday, and DS5 will by 3 in 3wks.

What i find strange is that DS5 (nonverbal) is definately comming out of his shell and being more responsive to people - almost initiated first contact with a little girl his size yesterday to play with him (for all of about 10seconds!) before spinning in circles . However, DS4, who is quite verbose seems to be getting shyer and shyer and was almost in tears when someone offered him birdseed to feed the parrots.

What do you reckon? just average toddlerdom? will they revert perhaps? I just found it a bit strange as DS2 and DS3 always kept the same personality traits whilst DS1's got more 'firm' and more distinct (hes adhd). was just wondering what you thought, as i respect your opinion.

NB totally understand that you dont know my children at all and its a complete guess, but wondered anyway.

sorry to hijack misscut and amber - but - if you feel up to it and have time amber could you have a look at this thread, a lady with Aspergers is struggling with whether or not to leave her abusive husband

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/749861-Sick-and-tired-of-DH-39-s-bad-temper-and

not at all TC!

I'd rather we asked everyone, not just me, if that's ok. It makes it feel very wrong, somehow, for anything on here to be just my opinion when there are such very lovely and very knowledgeable people here. But thank you for your kind words. They do help.

Can't think of the answers to your question at the moment - still a bit 'shut down' and am trying to handle negotiations for moving our HQ offices today in some semi-professional way (heaven help them) - sorry

I agree there are other peeps on here that are very well aquainted too, and i respect their opinions too. I was just worried about you thats all.

Good luck today, I know its important, but whatever happens it will work out. XXX

Let's see if any of my brain cells are working now (no guarantees there)

Can't guess for your two, but could generalise about why it might happen.

Prof Bailey was saying that in ASDs, the brain keeps forgetting where bits of itself are supposed to be, so we may end up with bits of the brain moving around a bit to different places at different stages of our lives. Bits connect up for a while, then disconnect when that bit of the brain shuffles off to somewhere else. Note the completely non-technical explanation, and bear in mind that I'm not a brain expert and am only relaying info 'wot I lurned'.

That, and hormone or other changes, can (he says) make a big difference to behaviour at different points in our lives. Some children revert and lose skills at different points, others gain new skills at different points, etc.

So in my view it's worth getting a definite opinion if you're seeing changes, yes. If it is just toddler-itis, phew.