please help ADHD mum with OCD tendancy child

[frustratedmom]

How do i get me to a point where I can function to a structured routine that is not imposed by outside factors so that I can provide the stability that a child who craves routine and exactness requires.

We have muddled through with various coping techniques but it is now obvious that this is just not enough.

I have to use an academice diary as I can't managed a yearly one. The academic diary force into habbit during highschool years.
I am happy to allow the day to flow as it does and struggle to stick to any routine or planning I set out. I can plan and when I need to be organised, I over compensate but can't find the middle ground as a SAHM.

Where do I start?

Also posted in general health(i think so sorry if you read this before).

maybe introduce set bath, bed and mealtimes for your child and yourself? i cant help much because i am awful at routines despite having 4 children one of whom with sn who really needs routine. i tend to muddle along too, but i didnt want your post to go unanswered.

Thanks.
Meals and bedtimes are the only bit we tend to get the same. Its a bit out at more due to a rough patch emotionally for ds. visited daddy for 10 days. 1st time at this length there and 1st time we've seen speration anxiaty. Working on getting it back into line. Bedtime there, meals getting there.

Question is how do I deal with the bit in between which seems to be the key bit. He is going to thrive going to school, isnt he . but glad to know not just me with this conflict.

frustratedmum I hope you don't mind me linking to your other posts but it might help people to know about your problems here

hey if someone has a great big cure all wand, fantastic!

Help is something I could greatly do with and it feels like a great big knotty ball of wool that the minute I sort one bit out i realise i have made something else worse. What ever helps right now!

I don't think there is a magic cure all out there if there was we would all be grabbing for it but there are people who have gone through or are going through similar things to you and may be able to tell you what worked (or didn't work) for them or just say you are not alone.
As mums we do the best we can and sometimes we feel that we could have done better so we beat ourselves up over it but living with it day to day and getting through it is an achievement never doubt it.

Yep but just answered some one else over something else and realised all aspects are linked and that the bigger picture is very messy. Can you help me create a link to other page - i'm not sure what I have to put in the brackets to specific the page/thread I am trying to link to.

Still very new to this but had more advice here then from the medical profession in nearly 4 years.

Your original thread is HERE

okay computer clutz. what do i type to do that? I get the www....
oh i get it - copy and paste bit in navigation bar of bit I want to link to?
ok lets try...

another bit of the puzzle is here: here

very cool and easy now i figured it out and evicted ds, who was put to bed 30mins ago, so i can get to the keyboard.

Well Done!!

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