My son's speech delay is my fault.

[emkana]

Apparently.

Because I let him have his dummy still.

according to whom?

Is this by any chance the same person who was saying he was too clingy?
you'll never come up to her perfect standards, clearly!

emkana , who told you that? they are talking out the wrong hole there!....dummys do not cause speach delays, they cause unsettled lo's to calm down, and thus help mummies nerves . .

This is according to my friend who used to be a SALT, so not the same person.

I get it from all sides.

I hate it that he has the dummy but he is very very very emotionally attached to it due to it being his lifeline during medical appointments in the past and I'm trying to wean him off it but gradually.

Friend suggested getting him to throw it in the bin and for the dummy fairy to leave money. Which just goes to show how much she knows about my ds... he has no concept of money.

ok , friend used to be a salt.... so she obviously hasnt been updated in the latest research then?,dummies are supposed to help with suckling and jaw movement(as told by scubu peadi),> .... dont let her guilt trip you. you are your childs mum, you know his needs better than anyone else! remember that!

I am laughing at the thought of a toddler exchanging a dummy for mere money!

I wouldnt worry about it - he is bilingual isnt he? dd2 hardly spoke until she went to KiGa, nearly 4 years old. We think she just had too many languages swirling round in her head.

actually i have the same thing written in a Paeds report! I was thoroughly disgusted!!! it says "X appears not to be talking yet, but he does still use a dummy" ... OMG - this child is DC5, and IME they tend to just talk AROUND them, until persuaded to take them out. It never actually STOPS speech. GRRRR

Of my 3 DCs only my eldest took to a dummy. It went everywhere with him until he was well into toddlerhood, and he was 6 before he gave it up at night. He has never had speach problems. My younger 2 would not take to dummies (not for want of trying on my part!!), and both had speach delays that continued well into school. Your friend is talking rubbish!!!

I agree with everyone else, DS1 had a Dummy until his fifth birthday, when the Dummy Fairy took it away in exchange for presents, and he has no problems with his speech.

DS2 has sppech delay and also has a dummy, but he isnt as attached to is as DS1 was by any means.

Your friend is talking rubbish, hope she hasnt got you too down.

Dt1 highly articulate, no speech problems at all. DT2 great vocabulary but less fluent , gets a bit lost in conversations sometimes, some processing issues. Both boys had dummies and gave them up on their 4th birthday (although at that stage only used them at night or when something upset them).

My boys are very different, both gave up dummies on the same day and I dont believe for a minute that the dummies had any impact on their speech development

DD1 had severe speech problem,she still struggles now at the age of 11. She never had a dummy.

DD2 worships at the altar of all things dummy shaped and could talk the hind leg of a donkey.

I was told (by preschool staff) ds was nonverbal because of his night time dummy use. I 'lost it' on the way home from holiday (so we had the cold turkey bad times at home. Ds just used his finger or hand instead ( found it that first night) and still does at 9! He remained nonverbal for some time. I really dont think the dummy had anything to do with it. He now has a Dx of autism and LD. So much for the 'experts'.
Don't take it to heart.

Like some of the others, ds1 wouldn't go near a dummy but has speech problems. Both ds2 and dd had dummy's beyond age 3 (just gearing up to wean dd off it!) and had no probs whatsoever. Dd has no trouble talking with her dummy in! We were also encouraged to get ds1 to suck/blow things so can only assume a dummy would be a good thing!

I caused ds1's speech problems by spoiling him and doing everything for him so he didn't have to ask for anything.

I have been offered all sorts of reasons for DDs speech delay, was discussing this with some others in the s and l group yesterday in fact and a psychologist said to me earlier in the week that maybe as DD is an only child I anticipate her needs so she hasn't needed to talk. Others have been told thier DC doesn't talk because they are one of a few so the other children talk for them, we can't win, people seem to pick on something convenient. Why they have to comment at all though is the question!

Emkana, so does it follow that if I give a dummy to DS1 (5.8) he might SHUT UP.

Please ask your friend for me

BR

Emkana, you know this is shite.
And you know I am a salt.
Surprised at the insensitivity of yuor 'friend' tbh. When did she practice? 1958??

She says the dummy stops him from pronouncing words correctly, esp sounds that are produced at the front of the mouth.

Emkana, my dd2 (non verbal) also still has a dummy and people often comment on her having a dummy and not being able to talk, it upsets me, she only has a dummy when she is upset or tired and i let her have it when we are waiting for dd2 to come out of school because it stops her from crying (she hates waiting).

Dd1 had a dummy in her mouth until she was 3.5 (still has one for bed at 5.2) and hasn't stopped talking since she was 10 months old.

LISTEN TO MOONDOG! (she knows best!)