Single mother, son has adhd, cannot take my eye off him for 10 seconds I'm I going mad!!

[rosalie12]

My son has had concentration problems since he was 15 months, he went to nursery full time as I was working.Every day I would go in to pick him up and say what has he done today!!! All the staff at the nursery loved him but he was always causing problems. When he started school at 4.6 I never told them of my concerns about his behaviour I would wait until they told me. 3 weeks it took for me to be called in to discuss his behaviour!!
Last year I went on holiday with friends and ended up falling out with them over my son. Constantly they were saying sort your son out! family have also done this and I feel as if I cannot go anywhere as my son causes problems. In Jan this year I was told he had ADHD, this was a relief and also caused me great sadness, have been a single mum since my son was 3 months old and thought it was my fault. At the min I cannot take my eye off him switching lights on and off, turning taps on, putting toilet paper down loo. going out he runs into road. help me someone I'm turning into a nutter!!!

have to tried setting small goals, such as for the next two hours (until tea time for example) if you don't do "turn the taps on" we will do "x" or you can have "y". perhaps a starchart and by the end of the day if he has so many stars he gets to stay up an extra half hour or something similar or he cam keep his stars until the weekend and then he can go to the soft play centre or something else he likes to do. my ds doesnt have adhd but he has special needs and does need constant attention because he has a lot of energy! He does similar things to you ds. i find it much easier watching what he eats, cutting out as many additives etc as it does help, i have swapped diluted juice for watered down pure orange or apple juice. i find i have to get his attention before telling him not to do something and have to keep my requests short and focused on one thing. if i keep it general or tell him not to do more than one thing he gets confused or doesnt listen. my ds has no concept of danger! i spend all my time repeating myself over and over again, sometimes i think i should make a recording to play to him, but eventually it gets through to him!

Have tried everthing to star charts, naughty corner, rewards for good behavior, it just seems as if a new day starts and I have to start again because he has forgot everything from the previous day.

i know how you feel! i have the same one sided conversations every day. don't do that, stop that, no," can you not just sit still for one minute, can you wait" but i have started looking at it as a day at a time. then one day you will think, hold on i didnt need to tell him not to do that! one less thing to cross of the list! how old is your ds?

He has just turned 6, he is adorable, he will say mum I love you then ask if he can have that choc bar I said he could not have !

Have you looked into EYE Q which is available at Boots, it comes in liquid form and capsules and granules. There was quite alot of press about how it helps calm down children with ADHD and I have been giving it to my son for many years now, its the long chain fatty acids and fish oils (I think?) so it may be worth doing some research on and giving it a try?
Good luck

thanks how old is your son and how do ypu cope?

my ds is 6 in november. i dont think about the fact that i told him the same thing a couple of minutes ago! i also find that if i stop get hold of him (not as in pin him down or stop him struglling but in a more gentle way) and make eye contact when i tel him not to do something he seems to pay more attention. i always suggest he do something else as well which works if for only half an hour! i am lucky because he is very well behaved in strange places as he feels uncomfortable, but after a couple of visits its a different story! love him to bits though because he comes out with some funny responses! like he can do two things at once, ie watch his programmes on tv and cause chaos but i can't sit at the computer and watch tv!

Yes, I see, when I take my son to somewhere new, a new friend they will tell me he is adorable a little angel, 2 months go by he gets comfortable, he had the neighbours knife set out, she had only got to the loo!