I am torn between wanting help and advice for ds's educational future and wanting to be left alone to make my own decisions

[emkana]

ds is 2.10 and will go to school next year . He hasn't started playgroup yet, but I'm trying to settle him in. His portage worker is trying to "help" me, but sometimes I feel she puts too much pressure on me to leave him when both him and me are not ready for it yet. And this is where my unease comes in: On the one hand I am grateful for help and advice and discussing all the options. On the other hand I just want to be left alone to make our own decisions as a family! Is that weird/wrong? Sometimes I just want to stop all portage etc just to be left alone. So what is the best way to deal with this?

No it's not weird and wrong at all, I felt exactly the same as you not so long ago. I find it very hard to be parted from DD2 (22 months) and our portage worker has really pushed for DD2 to start a sn nursery in September (she will be all of 2yr and 3mo so too young in my opinion). Anyway as I looked into it and spoke to other mums and therapists I do now realise this would be a good move for her. I still need to get over MY separation anxiety though as if I have to admit it, I think DD2 will be ok with it.

I would say though, if you really did feel very strongly against some of your portage workers suggestions you should say so. Afterall, noone knows a child more than their mother!!