fecking disbality social team could scream rant warning

[Phoenix4725]

well wejust had our visit from them and they dont reckon we meet critera to get any support in the housde but did pull up and moan about amount of toy on the floor as there a tripped hazard suggestedi lock them away and allow him one or two out at a time then encourage him to tidy up .give hm choice of this or that not understanding his attention is that of a knat less i sit there and interact

My kitchen well they said you need keep him outof fridge hell hes broke 3 locks and not let him touchcooker use hob guard the ones i had hes broken them.

Then they pulled up the fact tht i park his chair in the hall and there not happy thats its a trip hazard and i need to put it in my tiny front room maybe where my filing cabient is no idea where i should then move that !!!,
Then they pulle dup that i sleep downstairs as i only have 3 rooms upstairs and my rooom is loped of lounge and i acess through the kitchen so they will recommend that i remove the wall but pointed out would mean me sleeping on couch sos till downstairs anyway ther elike you not talked to council about bigge rhouse im like i waited 5 years to get a 3 bedroom and council told me ddand ds got to share i sleep in box room but ds does not sleep well and i had school concerend that dd was getting ver tired so i seperated them

All they seemed worried about ds toys ll ovr place as hes of the school not happy less there chucked around everywhere and the fact i dont have fridge and cupboard and ffs he sgoing come back in few weeks check i put things into place them and there fecking risk assements

Oh and to addto it they mentione dhave i tried to encourage him to tidy up behimnd himself , yeah i lovefact i spend all the time tidying up after my ds did point out once hes in bed if he goes that i do then tidy the main clutter beofr epass out for few hrs till he wakes up again

felt likr they was questioning my skills as aparent rather than actually offering pratical help and now scared there going get the other sid eof social services involved

Wow - they sound really helpful?!?!?? What exactly was the purpose of their visit? And I'm sorry but show me a house with young children that DOESN'T have toys all over the floor for the best part of the day! Idiots!

eeek. when they eventually came out to me (after 3 failed referrals another rant there but hey ho sorted now) I think they took the shithole we were living in as another sign we needed help Er hope so anyway. They did suggest using dla money for a cleaner

if they aren't going to offer you any help, you'ld think they'ld have the decency to piss off and mind their own business wouldn't you?
what planet are they on suggesting you remove a WALL?

Not surprised to hear this . First, I wouldn't panic too much about any implied threats; you haven't done anything wrong - you've just asked for help and sadly, the majority of first assessments fail. This helps to thin the numbers out because SS expect and hope that parents will take, 'no' for an answer. It's your job to keep peservering because it's going to take time to get what you want.

So, I would attempt to put in place as many of their initial recommendations as possible in readiness for the next visit - if you want their help, then it's much easier to access it if you get them on your side first.

Maybe you could put up a stairgate (or a dog gate, they're taller) across the kitchen door to sort out the fridge and hob issues?

Ask SS who will pay for removing the wall?

Do you have any letters from your council about your housing situation? Show them to SS, then they can see for themselves what the situation is. You could also write to your council asking for a move to a bigger house because of your family's needs; show their reply to SS.

Always remember that phones are bad and letters are good. SS are good at reneging on verbal agreements to get everything in writing. Keep a detailed and chronological filing system of any correspondence that you have in your pursuit of help.

Perhaps you could also ask any professionals who are involved with your family to write to SS on your behalf - won't do any harm.

Good luck and keep chipping away - the fact that SS are now coming round is a step in the right direction.

so get everything in writing

did have dog gate upbut doorwayis to narrow for that or a saftey gate to fit

The wall is a plasterboard only job i didvided lounge so I could have a tiny bit of me space ie a bedroom as had spent last 6 years sleeping in a lounge,since I built it somehow i got to find the time to dismantle it

the orginal purpose of their visit was as I needd some work done regarding acces to house for ds and I live in council house can not get it done or do myself without them being involved evean if I footed my bill my self

trouble i got is where do i put things we are desperatley short of space ,Ds bedroom is only 7 by 5 so cant put his toys up there and then theres the issue that he cant get or be left to play upstairs safely.They suggested i get a shed and out some bits outside in it imlike yippei got plenty of money to buy a shed and allthetime in the world to build it.

The professionals all have said and in writing that i am doing a great job with ds with doing therapy and that hes coming on so well,guess will say to ss next time telll you what ill lock all ds toys up ,sleepin the lounge though how this makes it any mor elikely that if theres a fire on stairs/hall to get to him i dont know and will spend all my time cleaning and not interacting with ds at all will let him watch cbeebies on a loop

oh its well known where i live that the council does not own 4 bedroom properties n any of its areas not just my town ,they sold them all of.i did show them the letter council sent me when i asked to go on list for bigger house

but calmed down will try put everything in place adn thn hit them with a wel so when will you start building me a extension so i can sleep on same floor as ds and a when wil the decorators be in to help me finsh of my decorating

also will say oh so i can expect the issue of stairs to my front door and backdoor to be resolved soon so theres no health and saftey risk

seuss

I to would find it more concerning going to a house where theres 4 dc and no toys around

and lol good job I am not being looked at for my spelling

i was more than a little bit fecked 0f
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You need to ask SS how much they can contribute towards the cost of a shed?

Do you receive DLA or Carer's Allowance?

Could you let your ds play in an upstairs room that is gated at the door, to keep him inside?

Have you tried contacting Home Start for some help? www.home-start.org.uk/, might be worth a try..or perhaps there are other similar organisations close to where you live?

SS have very limited funds so I guess you need to focus on what will make the most difference to your lives. I would say that organising your living space is more important than decorating!

yes iget high rate care and high rate moblity for ds

his room by time has bed and wardrobe in he has a space literally 2 foot by 2 foot

Home start do not cover my area as ii m considered live in a good area and i am coping with my dc

yes for me i would love more living space really would .

will mention to ss about shed and someone to build and costs