DS and breakfast, I'm at my wits end

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Sorry this is quite a small problem, but I feel rubbish after breakfast yet again.

DS will only eat cold beans and bread (not toast, not brown bread, just fresh white bread). He then sometimes has a yoghurt but it takes a lot of coaxing.

It feels awful to me, cold beans isn't the best start to the day surely? He also won't have milk, just water. Any tips on how I can change this habit?

It's healthy and nutritious if unconventional. So try not to feel too bad about it. There's a very good book called "can't eat, won't eat" about eating problems and Asd - no quick fixes but lots of useful ideas. There's plenty of threads on here about fussy/phobic eaters. A good tip from Silverfrog recently was about encouraging children to have food on the plate/play with it/touch it/bin it - as a gentle introduction, with a view to them eventually trying it.

Beans and bread have all the essential amino acids he needs to make the various things he needs to (random memory from science lessons). It is probably a better breakfast than many sugar laden cereals

Dairy would help, but I still think that the basics are there with that breakfast. It may not be traditional, but it is healthy.

With yoghurts - mine are much more likely to co-operate with frubes/something in a weirdy shape, or those squirty smoothie type things

Oh thankyou, you are wonderful. I'm panicking about a lot of things, it's really nice to hear encouragement.

I know beans are good, my mum calls them a meal in a tin , but it just feels wrong, but oddly, if they were hot beans with toast it would feel fine.

sorry I'm not making much sense, had little sleep.

Makes perfect sense.

DH makes "warm cheese sandwiches" - which is pretty much a cheese sandwich nuked in the microwave - I hate it, say it isn't a meal. Yet cheese on toast I think is ok

if it helps i love a bean sandwich lol he has great taste

really dont panic too much its full of iron its healthy and as long as his eating his energy levels and health will stay good

i think we do a lot of things which isn't conventional i certainly have with my ds

he lived off bread and butter for months toast only for months at least with the beans hopefully his not getting constipated as ds with just bread got so constipated bless him

we've washed in paddling pool in living room as he wouldn't get in a bath
his played games console all night
he watches dvd at bed time
he comes through to sleep in my room

anything to make them and us happy is worth it and not always right but what is right?

because others wouldst do it doesn't make it wrong whatever works in our houses is right for us

i did find lunch times when ds had his eating phase i would put small amounts of different foods as well as what i knew he would eat and just leave it with him didnt force him to eat it just let him look at it

next day same again asked him to touch the food
the next day asked if he could lick the food if he didnt still praised him

done same again next day and asked if he could just try small amount and that would be it id bin it he tried it i praised him and binned it

built it up more every day to try 2 things just very small and id get him to feed me bit too and say how yummy it was i also made it fun by putting cheese spread on my nose and trying to lick it off and getting him to do same etc

never pushed him into it and now a yr on he eats anything and everything can still go through phases of not liking mash or not liking food containing mash but i steer clear and try again at another point

it may not work but i found the joking with the food helped alot as he would put his fingers in chocolate spread , cheese spread to put on my face and would lick his fingers after but main key was ignoring if he did eat some without me asking as to not bring attention to it and to praise any effort when i asked

but no pressure always very small mouse size bites as to not be too pressuring and to not waste too much