Are there men out there who would take on single mum and two difficult kids???????

[sadnog]

I have recently made the decision to split from DP for various reasons (I have a thread on relationships). Although I am certainly not looking for a new partner in the near future I do wonder if this is it and I am destined to spend a life alone with DS (ADHD)and DD (SEN and possible ASD). They are both such hard work that I don't know if anyone would be willing to take on the challenge! Has anyone been in my position and met someone willing to take on challenging children that aren't theirs?

Not got much of a social life, not many friends to go out with so wondering how I would even get the chance to meet such a man!?

Sadnog, sorry about your split. Now might not be the right time, but you aren't going to have your dc's at this age forever, and lots of things will change over time. Will your ex have them on a regular basis to give you some time to yourself? That might be a blessing in disguise for your social life..

In the meantime could you organise any baby sitting to enable you to get out and meet some people? Could you start a book club, do some kind of sport or even join something like Weight Watchers (not suggesting you need that at all, but I've heard it's really sociable!!) Is it worth looking to see if any of us live near you and organise a meet up?

My friend met her lovely man online. She had a new baby and a toddler when her husband left her, so was also restricted in where she could go out and meet people. Her dd's don't have SN but have their own issues and he treats them as if they were his own. There are many wonderful people out there, it's just a matter of finding them.