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arrrggh first few days holidays hes driving me nuts

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trace2 · 07/04/2009 08:59

we are really trying (maybe so is he) i just dont know what to do? tried every thing, talking being calm! nothing working hes goes to sit spins like a dog, till he sit for a few seconds, in dd face all the time. god i could go on for ever.

what the hell can i do dd is picking all he does i need help.

ds as aspergers

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bubblagirl · 07/04/2009 09:15

do you have trampoline? my ds has got small one inn his room now and when he doesn't know what to do he bounces for ages and really helps him

what does he like to do could you try and set a rota routine for him daily so he knows what his doing and when?

i know when the structure goes they have no idea what to do we have rota we dont always need to follow it but on the bad days we do and it seems to help him he'll follow it and see what his done and where next

my ds loves the little map so activity then a line to next one he follows it down and we put sticker on the completed part and then follow to see what next

bubblagirl · 07/04/2009 09:15

sorry not much help but i hope you can have reasonable relaxing holiday xx

Widemouthfrog · 07/04/2009 09:25

After a nightmare weekend with loads of flapping, refusal to leave the house, and wailing, I made a daily schedule for yesterday out of desperation. Seriously, calm is restored. He is carrying around with him like his most prized possession.

We already use a planner on the frige, but this is more like the timetable he has at school: wake up - breakfast - morning activity - lunch - afternoon activity - dinner - spiderman - bed

(Spiderman is his obsession, so I have to build dressing up in every day.)

This morninggs activity is Scooby Doo DVD, and this afternoon it is the garden - (sand and trampoline). he has filled these in himself on the timetable.

I've got to build him up to try and get him out tomorrow (one step at a time).

perhaps try something similar?

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trace2 · 07/04/2009 09:28

bubblagirl we dont have a trampoline! wish we did he normally like wii, ds but hes lost then and am really trying to hold off giving him back just yet anyway. iv bought him a maths book as he loves doing sums he just carnt sit to do them, iv took him for a walk, nothing tires him

thank you for your advice though i needed to rant.

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Chocolatebunnyrabbit · 07/04/2009 09:31

Hi Trace2,

How old is DS? How able is he?

Totally agree with Bubblagirl. Split the day into blocks. Good for him and good for you as you!!

Is he able to help you do things around the house? I can get DS1 to carry things up and dowm stairs for me but I know some DCs aren't able to do this. It can actually be useful, gives him something to do and gives him some exercise. He'll also fetch things (wow I'm making him sound like a puppy!).

I also ask him to sort things for me which he loves. Depending on his age, you could empty one of the kitchen drawers onto a table and ask him to sort things into size.

I will be trying this myself next week as I'm working this week but off next so I feel for you and will be taking note of suggestions on this thread!!!

BR

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trace2 · 07/04/2009 09:31

Widemouthfrog will try that, but we carnt really stick to it as dd as as undx seizures and diffrent things happening but we will try, thanks

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trace2 · 07/04/2009 09:34

Chocolate hes able hes nearly 7 i have tried asking him to help but thats with dd needs maybe i should try things just for him?

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bubblagirl · 07/04/2009 09:42

when your with dd maybe you could ask him what he would like to put on his chart to do so he gets some responsibility but also some filled in gap rather than doing nothing

ds has his ds games console at hand and dvds to fill in any gaps that have no structure and i will tell him 10 mins previously if i intend on his doing something and keep reminding him this helps him also as i can then do something shorter notice as have built him up to it

maybe some cake making

ds loves his maths too at the moment so i sit with him to do a few then he can go off again

just some form of structure to stop them feeling bored and lost helps so much and would be easier for you also to know where you are as much as possible and with any luck keep, him occupied and calm

Widemouthfrog · 07/04/2009 09:47

Thats ok trace, A timetable may not be right for you, but even a very basic daily structure may help. I like Chocs idea aswell of setting little tasks and getting him to help. DS was helping me dust on polish on Sunday and he did really like it. (problem is I don't! ).

Widemouthfrog · 07/04/2009 09:48

Cross posted with bubblagirl - much what i wanted to say, but she has put it so much better

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trace2 · 07/04/2009 10:02

thank you i will try now just asked him if he wants to make a new time table whiles he off school, he says yes

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bullet123 · 07/04/2009 10:03

Ds1 has chicken pox. We have had to cancel the two days at a special needs playgroup and we are stuck in the house. At the minute he is fast asleep in bed and hasn't stirred all morning.

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trace2 · 07/04/2009 10:12

awww bullet123 hope hes better soon?

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Chocolatebunnyrabbit · 07/04/2009 11:23

aww poor little sonofbullet and poor you for having to cancel playgroup.

At least you have an excuse for a duvet day!! (that's if your DS likes telly)

CBR

Widemouthfrog · 07/04/2009 11:29

LOL at duvet day. My DS loves rolling in the duvet, so not a relaxing option in this house

bullet123 · 07/04/2009 11:34

Sorry strictly speaking should have said play scheme rather than playgroup as the latter suggests preschool.
He is still asleep.

Chocolatebunnyrabbit · 07/04/2009 11:59

WMF at rolling in duvet!

Bullet, still asleep. So way are you not :

  1. Eating chocolate/crips anything forbidden
  2. Sleeping
  3. Watching something on DVD that he cannot watch (Blade runner?)
  4. Lying in the garden
  5. Painting your nails

perm any n from n

CBR

bullet123 · 07/04/2009 12:04

Because I have a Ds2 who is not asleep.
Ds1 is now awake and seems quite bright. Currently tucking into a very late breakfast/early dinner.

Chocolatebunnyrabbit · 07/04/2009 16:19

Well ok if I'd been concentrating I would have realised that as you said DS1 and not DS you had at least one other little cherub .....

Sorry!!

But my thoughts were with you anyway...

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