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thick question....sorry

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2chocolateshoes · 30/03/2009 11:27

would a young person with aitism or aspergers,
know and understand that it is wrong to throw a ball at a teen/mans balls?

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busybeingmum · 30/03/2009 11:34

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2chocolateshoes · 30/03/2009 12:09

so what would hapeen if the person they were hurting them, hurt them back?
sorry i know it is a silly question, but it is so hard to explain something that you don't understand yourself.

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busybeingmum · 30/03/2009 12:26

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busybeingmum · 30/03/2009 12:41

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2chocolateshoes · 30/03/2009 12:57

no it makes sense.
I wasn't in the room at the time and i am assuming the sn iynwim.
ds was sittting reading and this boy kept throwing a ball at him(not to him) so he threw it back.
I was trying to say that maybe the lad didn't understand that it was wrong, but ds is a teen and it is hard.

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busybeingmum · 30/03/2009 13:01

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magso · 30/03/2009 13:13

Yes Ds (LD and autism) does not understand that what is not hurting him (ie throwing the ball) could be hurting another (getting hit by the ball). He also has trouble with understanding body language and faces - so may think the victim bent double is fooling around or laughing or jumping for joy - not hurt/cross etc. Indeed he may repeat what has caused a reaction! He can show empathy if he sees blood!! Its as if he has to learn each rule separatly (throw ball to hands/ between shoulder and waist)!). The no hitting, rule would not be transferred to a ball without a new rule!

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2chocolateshoes · 30/03/2009 13:41

interesting, I did ask ds if he thought maybe the boy was tryng to get him to play.
He didn't think so as he felt the boy was aiming rather than throwing iynwim.

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magso · 30/03/2009 14:21

Your poor ds! Ds does seem (to others) to do things just for the reaction sometimes ( like touching his touch sensitive classmates for the overkill reaction) so perhaps this lad was too! Hard to say what is going on! Ds gets distraught once he understands the other person is hurt (he sees blood or tears or me hamming up how cross I am )- he just cant make the connection without it! When he was younger (and even less able to understand anothers pain) complete nonreaction (blank poker faces and sending to Coventry) worked better.

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2chocolateshoes · 30/03/2009 15:19

oh don't worry about ds, he is 17 and was just a bit annoyed.
H e is great usually, so maybe I misread it and it was an nt child(ds normally can tell)

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