asd does the squealing and whining ever end??

[hungryhippo21]

ds1 is 2.7 and non-verbal he just seems to be recently just whining the whole time for no reason (that I can tell). He also seems to have become upset by having dirty hands he will only eat with his hands but now i have to sit right next to him to brush of things like breadcrumbs. For example today we did some fingerpainting he did this on weds at playgroup and seemed fine he was ok with messy hands until he realised we had finished and they were messy would not come to the sink had to be dragged whining and screaming hands wewre washed and inspected making sure every last bit was off. Then he starts whining and pulling at my hands they had a little bit of paint on so they were cleaned then he spots paint on my trousers - tinest bit and off he goes again until I get changed.
Sorry for the rant but had enough today just feel it is relentless and I have no one to help. Also have 9 month old son who is constantly teething ds1 cries when he cries.
And yes I am having a strong cup of tea no I dont drink trying to avoid chocolate as ds2 broke belly (he was a big boy)

I think this age is the hardest, but it does get easier hungryhippo. The years from 2-3 were the hardest of all with my autistic and then non-verbal DS, who would ENDLESSLY try to flood the bathroom by running taps with the plug in. One thing I wish someone had told me then, is that just because he's autistic, doesn't mean he gets to set the rules. If you are sick of him washing hands, say a firm "no". In the end, I would put my son safely in his room and pull the door shut. It gives him (and me!) a break from the repetitive cycle, and in his room there were toys that could distract him. I think sometimes I forgot that just because he's autistic doesn't mean he's not also a 2 year old boy, and 2 year old boys need boundaries or they will rule your world! And you with a baby too - poor you!

dd2(3) has started whining a lot lately but up to now has been easy work (she's also non-verbal), Dd1 (AS) had a problem with having dirty hands, she's 5 now ,she still likes to have clean hands but doesn't make as much fuss.