The nightmare begins again :(

[jenk1]

DD has gone ballistic all week about her class assembly tomorrow.

school said she didnt have to take part in the speech and that she could sit with her teacher,but no thats not good enough,so i said id go in and sit with her -which they agreed to,but no thats a no go cos she will cry she said when i go home.

she had me up at 3am crying about it this morning and refused to eat her breakfast,so i contacted her private psych and he has told us to keep her off and quote him on that cos CAMHS wont get off their backside and complete the assessment of her, so ive got to write to CAMHS and tell them this.

shes also refused to go swimming with her class,so her teacher said i could go on the coach and sit with her in spectator area but now shes had a screaming fit over that.

Of course only you know what your dd can cope with but might it be worthwhile just to see how your dd does cope with assembly and swimming? My ds also has difficulties with such things, but I've learnt that he frets and kicks off about it a lot, but once he has had time to get adjusted to the idea, he copes fairly well. He didn't get involved in the swimming lessons but went along to watch in the end, and he hasn't had a speaking part in assemblies but he has now learnt to cope with being there.

I also totally empathise with the 3 o'clock morning s..t

hiya macwoozy, yes i agree with what you are saying but tbh i feel we,ve done everything to try and make her feel comfortable with the assembly/swimming and school seem to be at a loss.

im a softie but i cant send her in when shes screaming and crying about it,ive written a letter to the headteacher asking him to call a multiagency meeting between everyone to get DD the help she needs, as DD was dx,d privately i think thats why there doesnt seem to be a lot of help forthcoming,we have been offered a date with CAMHS next month to "discuss our concerns"-erm that,ll be lack of proper assessment and leaving us for a year with nothing then.

with your DS, what did you/school do to help him overcome his anxiety?

Oh don't get me started on CAMHS, I've still not got over the meeting I had with them, and that was a few years ago now.

Basically, the school allowed my ds to go at his own pace with regards to class assemblies etc, he was never pushed into doing them, and certainly hasn't been forced to take a speaking part, but finally he agreed to at least stand with the class at the last class assembly. A great achievement considering the stink he caused last year. It's been a gradual thing though but at least it's moving in the right direction. I remember going to one of his class assemblies last year, and he was sat there reading a beano comic . They've also found that some sort of distractor helps, like a piece of blu-tac or something similar.

Same goes for swimming, they've not pushed him into doing that, and he was fairly content to just sit and watch, although I did feel sorry for him on those occasions because I know how much he loves swimming but he just couldn't bring himself to do it with the school.

Good luck with your dd

oh poor you; it is exhausting dealing with a screaming crying child and having to make decisions

can't advise but I do know what it feels like; you feel whatever you decide is going to be wrong

please accept these virtual chocs

thanks macwoozy and cory.

well i emailed the headteacher this morning telling him that she was very anxious and that i wasnt sending her in on recomendations of the private psych.

he emailed back virtually straightaway and said he fully supports my decision,that he doesnt want to pressure dd into anything that she doesnt want to do and that after the easter holidays he would like to sit down with us and the psych to discuss how to help dd overcome her anxiety when faced with changes.

so i feel a little happier now.

have written to camhs as got a letter today inviting us to a meeting during easter holidays which is impossible with 2 kids with asd and have told them there is a meeting being arranged,they wont like it that our private psych is involved-they didnt last time over DS but TOUGH,if they,d have done their job properly and dd had been assessed and dx,d we wouldnt be in this situation now.

GRRRR at CAMHS