Felt so sorry for DS2 today

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Took Ds2 to mainstream nursery today (here we go again) and we have to wait outside at gates until teacher comes to collect all the afternoon kids (about 6 of them). DS2 was getting all excited, hand flapping....and trying to speak to one of the boys, lets call him Luke. He was saying "Luke Luke, there my mammy" and "hello Luke". He does tend to get right into kids' faces when speaking to them. Luke kept walking away from him and sitting by some other kids on the little wall, and when ds2 was following him and sitting by him, they were all getting up and walking away Poor DS2 just didn't get the hint and kept doing it. Felt I needed to apologise to Lukes dad for Ds2's behaviour as well. He was only trying to be friendly with them

oh poor ds and poor you its not nice when children dont get our children is it

big hugs to you xxxxxxx

i guess al we can be grateful for is there not bothered by it and dont understand there fore there still happy
and thats the main thing the other children will get used to our children its more hurtful to us than them for that im grateful

This sounds like my dd1 when she was at nursery , i think it still happens now she's at school, she still doesn't understand, i have got it through to her about personal space on not getting to close to peoples faces but she can still be a little full on.

Totally agree bubblagirl. He wasn't fazed by it at all, but I just felt so sorry for him because he didn't understsand. I am going to ask the teacher tomorrow if he plays with this boy at all, because he did seem to be familiar with him.

my ds gets paired up with children for tasks to help with his socialising and he likes these people but couldn't care less about the others lol

it still bothers me when i see children forming friends but then ds isnt worried and is really happy as he is so that's good enough for me

its hard on us as we see the picture clearly sometimes im glad ds doesn't get it as some people can be cruel and makes me happy to know he will never be upset by it

I know he has friends in school, or at least I think he does. There is a girl who always tells me that DS2 is her special new friend, and gave me a few drawings she apparently made for him when it was parents open day last week.

I am really glad he doesn't understand, but then he is only 3 so most 3 year olds are probably the same.

oh bless the little girl i find girls are much more caring they love to mother even at that age lol

I would encourage his friendships with girls tbh. DS2 is 6, and the girls in his class are SO much more friendly towards him than the boys. DS2 doesn't speak as much as your DS, but I'm pretty sure if he did the 'looming in the face' thing he does to most of the boys, they would move away - whereas the girls aren't phased by it at all - they just say 'hello DS2' and hug him!

Strange you shoudl say that Sphil. DS2 has a lovely ASD girl friend who is on about the same level of communication as him, and toay at his review I found out he has 3 girl friends at MS school as well.

Maybe its because they want to nurture him?

Yes - I think it's the mothering instinct kicking in early! Also, the girls at DS2's school seem to take a great pride in his achievements - getting him to talk, imitate etc. On the negative side, he's very passive - so they can treat him a bit like an interactive teddy bear and don't always recognise when he's had enough. We're working on that though - trying to find social games where they can model appropriate behaviour/language for him.

Some of the girls at pre-sch can be SO helpful, I remember one member of staff telling me "Your daughter is not going to learn anything until x goes to school", x being an overly helpful little girl who did everything possible for my dd! Sweet really.

Well his MS teacher was there during his review last week, and the majority of his friends are indeed girls.Bless him. He doesn't really play with them unless prompted, but it does tend to be with the girls.