asd meeting with paed did notgo well

[jasdox]

just had a meeting with the paed yesterday, and just realising what was actually happening in the meeting - as you just cannot process info at the time. but basically, he was saying that ds is HF/Asperger (his almost 31/2y) and telling me to read certain books relating to the subject. but would not give me a formal dx. I have to apply schools this year by end of sept to enter for 2010. However he would like another review in oct!! hmmmm...

the question would a dx help me get my to the school nearest to me, which i think would be good for him? as in bristol it's a nightmare to get your local school unless you live next door - which we do not and concerned we could end up miles away.

also it did not help my oh who now thinks i am fussing over a slight delay! and will not accept that our ds is ASD. they have a very close relationship.

guess i just beginning to learn the battle that sn parents face, trying to help there child.

any thoughts would be great
thanks

We are waiting for a dx for dd2 (asd) but have been told it may take a year+. Dd2 starts school in 2010, i have been told she should be ok for main stream but i can't see it as she is non-verbal so at the moment i don't have a clue what school she will go too.
I don't think you need a dx to get help at school, are you getting help from portage at all? i have found portage a great help, dd2 starts main stream nursery after easter and she will have portage visiting her once a week to see if she needs a 1:1.

I also have dd1 who has AS and is in main stream, we have had no problems so far.

Thanks for your replies, it so good to have a board you can write to, must have been v. isolating before internet. He has a speech therapist, but she is still just observing, he only started talking 6 months ago, but is now doing quite well. we have portage once every two weeks. he also has a year's worth's IEP

I think he should be ok in mainstream with a bit of support. we have some good local primaries but getting into them worries me, i will try early years senco. are there other avenues.

My nephew 4.6 has just been diagnosed with HFA. My SIL is getting lots of help with various things, but he does go to a mainstream school, and in the main, I think it is working ok and the school is very supportive (they pointed out the issue). I don't really have anything relevant to say, but just get all the support you can - I think it is there, but I know it can be difficult to access. My nephew was seen a couple of months ago and they wouldn't give a formal diagnosis - so if that is what you want, it might not take so long. I don't have any real knowledge, but when I was doing applications for my own son, it seemed that those with SENs were top of the priority list, so it might help.

Hopefully someone with more knowledge will be along soon. Good luck.

I would start speaking to the schools you are interested in directly - ideally speak to head or senco, explain your DS's language delay and that although you are still awaiting Dx, the paed has indicated that he is on the spectrum. ask them what support they would provide to a child with your DS's problems, and whether they are used to dealing with children with similar problems. you can also get a feel for SEN provision from the Ofsted reports, which usually have a paragraph in about htis.

with SEN - if you have backing from the professionals, then you can get priority for medical/social reasons for school admission.