concerned that the Paed is gonna be thinking 'Münchausen syndrome by proxy'

[misscutandstick]

DS1 (16y) has ADHD. DS2 (11) is dyslexic. DS5 (2.10y) has GDD and autistic traits.

Im now quite concerned that all is not well with DS4 (3.10y), and that he is showing signs of ASD too.

We have an appt with Paed on 31st Mar, to discuss my concerns. The problem is that im not totally sure there is a problem, after all perhaps im just looking for one because of all his brothers? I know how difficult it is to convince the Paed when you are totally sure there is a problem! am i going to just look like ive got munchausens??? How much less seriously will he take me? I worry that i will be fobbed off, when there is something wrong

The reasonable side of me says that its probably more likely that if i have one child on the spectrum, then why not more than 1 or 2, more? especially as both me and DH tend to have more than a few traits ourselves

im just worrying about the appt

We've all been there! I'm still paranoid about DS (20 mos) have days when I'm convinced he's NT and days when I'm convinced he's the same as his sister (whatever that is!)
I think it's normal
Hope your paed is nice and understanding and can help you get some clarity about DS4!

Let's keep fingers crossed for each other, misscut.

I have actually been in the situation where a consultant told me he thought dd's joint pains were the result of trauma after sexual abuse and he was afraid he couldn't let us leave the hospital.

Two days ago I had to ask for a referral for ds for the same joint problem.

There's no way I'm going to feel good about this. But I know I'm doing the right thing.

Brioche - thanks, its nice to know what im feeling is kinda 'average'

ooh cory, thats awful - will keep everything crossed for you!

I think we have to stick to the thought that we have the courage to do what is right for our children however hard it comes for us. Makes me feel better anyway

Cory, i think you may be right.

TC it must be worse when your own family thinks that!

I just want to say - I feel your pain! I worry about this a lot as well just because my doctors and I seem to really mistrust each other.

All I can say is be honest with yourself, and them, and perhaps write stuff down so you have something to show? You know your children best.