am feeling really hurt by so called friend

[trace2]

we been friends for a long time and was great when pg with dd , even when shes been ill since born, then things went wrong dd was always in hospital still not a dx and then found out ds 6 years now got aspergers we did have an idea anyway, to cut a long story short since we found out about ds shes not really been around with her dd ( they was friends but dont go to same school) we used to take her every where with us. but then she got pg i thought great shes been trying for so long! and now shes does not come near,i even found out her dd had a party and ds not invited( he would not go anyway but would have been nice to ask) i even went down on morning of her dd birthday with a card and £10 and didnt even say.

i feel like iv been let down and am very hurt is that wrong? cos i know ds would not have gone! sorry i just needed to have a moan am so tired and fed up of being used.

Oh Trace2, you poor thing . You have every right to feel hurt by this. Sadly this does happen with friends. The same happened to me last year when ds2 was dx.

It is at these times you will find out who your true friends are.

Aww Trace ((((hugs))))

I went through something very similar last year. A 'friend' i thought i was very close to started to avoid me, and after a few months i questioned her and asked (via email) whether she didn't want to be friends any more. A few days later i recieved a reply, the basic gist was that she felt it was insensitive of me to moan to her about my life/dd. And by moan i mean 'talk' lol - obviously being a close friend, of course i used to talk to her about stuff when i felt low! (just as a bit of background since having dd i have suffered badly with depression and my dd is autistic)

For a few weeks i felt really hurt, and also angry that someone i had opened up to so much would treat me this way. It's also made me wary with my other friends too. But after a while, i gradually realised i was probably better off without her. You don't need people in your life who make you feel this way, us ASD mums have enough to deal with and we do a pretty darn good job of it! As 5inthebed says, its at times like this you find out who your true friends are - the ones who don't stick around, well its their loss.

thank you ladies i went to bed all the worring gave me a headache but still didnt sleep till well in this morning! i have decided am not going to ring text her or go down, if she does contact me ill ask her straight out. i have to many worries with my children without her adding to them. once again thank you for making me see you lot are my friends now.