Hi
We have got a new babysitter coming tonight. She is a lovely girl, very experienced (manager of toddler room in DS2's nursery).
DS1 is possibly dyspraxix/AS - appointment with paed later this month.
He has sensory issues and clear problems with new people and emotional regulation etc.
He knows the babysitter by sight but we had problems collecting DS2 from nursery because DS1 (who is 6) gets so overwhelmed by the sea of faces and activity around collection time so he hasn't had much time to chat to her.
We have used babysitters recently but this has been a friend we know well and my sister.
We have been warning DS1 that we are going out tonight. This morning when I reminded him, he wrote us a letter saying 'I am begging you, do not go out'
Then, he wrote another letter with DS2 (who is 3) and it is all aboout the fence he is going to erect to stop us going out. He says they have a plan!!
I've just spoken to him and reassured him about how nice she is and how he will be in bed for most of the time she is here. And that we'll stay until he goes to sleep if he wants or we'll only go out for a bit.
I've even said we will stay and she can just come for a play while he gest to know her.
However, he says he is scared because he doesn't know her and is frightened to be left. He seems sincere - I think.
What would you do? Plough ahead and go out or re-arrange for another time. But will this ever get any better?
Help