Ds scratching in play groud again, anyone had to deal with this?

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I already have a thread going "ADHD,PLEASE HELP!!" , witha ll details so far of probs with ds, but wondered if anyone out there had any experience specifically with scratching, esp at school age! Thanks in advance..

Sorry that should be "with all details"

Have answered your other thread.
Ds used to scratch arms and faces. I do not think he intended to scratch or hurt - he is very impulsive with poor understanding of consequenses, and when stressed (confused teased, bullied,) tends to hold his hands out stiffly. When overwhelmed he used to push away whatever was distressing him - including intrusive faces/words! He also lacks understanding of how gentle he needs to be when touching another such as to get their attention.
We dealt with it at home by immediate time out (or time in) for any deliberate aggression. Accidental/ non intentional injury is different - but the injured child (and adult he/she tells) is likely to see all injury as deliberate. First the child needs to notice (ds struggled with realising cause and effect!), apologise then make ammends. Social stories can be helpful in explaining another childs feelings.It would be helpful if playground staff could watch carefully - you really need to know what happens before an incident.
Ds is now 9. He is very impulsive, fast but poorly coordinated. At a school party recently he got caught short and rushed in panic for the door to the bathrooms. A classmate was walking across his path, carefully balancing a plate of food. Ds knocked into him - and the food fell! At first it looked like he had not noticed! But when he got back he ( unprompted) carefully collected a new plate of food, took it to the distressed friend, apologised, and said to the childs mother ' I should not have come - I am clumsy!'All was forgiven and I was proud he has come so far!
Your son may need some support in the playground ( hard to get!) for instance to see things as others do ( social stories) and learn how to back off when stressed.

Hi pipinjo; ds is scratching other children in face; i have more details on my other thread "ADHD, ANY ADVICE WELCOME PLEASE"....