This is a new one - boys and tights!

[debs40]

Hi

I've got a paed appointment this month for my son who has clear sensory issues - clothes/food.

Anyway, mornings before school are always lively as we try to work out what ds will wear. Every time we seem to have a system worked out, something changes and he refuses to wear particular socks or underpants - we are now down to two pairs of Spiderman underpants (nothing else will do).

Anyway, variation on a theme today as I got changed and put on a skirt and tights. Ds has mentioned before that he doesn't like tights and I nearly always wear jeans these days (I work from home at the computer so no need to dress up!).

Today, he got so upset about me wearing the tights I had to change back into jeans. Is it the change in routine? He almost looked like he would be sick. I didn't look that bad honest?!!

Any ideas??

Hi busybeingmum can I ask what your ds' dx is?

dd1 gets a bit wound up whenever she sees me dressed up (ie in a skirt or dress) as it usually means that the babysitter si about to arrive and dh& I are going out for the day, so can understand why she gets a bit upset.

so maybe your ds thought that something really big was about to change (and ina way, already had?)

Thanks - ds is 6 and has the same sort of issues you mention. It never makes for a good start to the morning! I try and be really calm and not rush him but he seems to hang on my every mood/expression.

I try to be really calm and patient in the morning and don't rush him. I tell him it doesn't matter if we are a bit late for school. But it is stressful and he knows, for example if I go silent or sigh (after the 5th pair of socks)that I find it difficult so it makes him shout or get upset.

I find it very difficult to deal with as I have a three year old to dress too and husband goes out to work really early so is not around to help.

How did you work through this?

Thanks. That helps. I think that having a more carefully thought out plan for dressing - which I'll try and share with him - might help.

What do you do about getting to school on time? Do they understand if you're late? DS can be so unpredictable about these things.I hate it setting a bad tone to the morning.

We've got character day (for Book Day) tomorrow. That should be fun!

Well, the problem is we have had no input from school.

I arranged the referral for ds after talking to my HV and GP. It is going to take place at school but school have had nothing to do with it.

DS moved schools in Oct (he's in Year 1). This school is nearer and smaller and he's been happier there. The Head at his old school (who was new) mentioned a couple of things to me about him chewing books and things but, on further investigation (and probably because we were moving) they concluded there wasn't a problem.

The whole thing switched me on the DS's sensory issues though and I raised it with his new school who have said that apart from sitting by the same person, they have not noticed anything.

It all seems to be before and after school. He manages to keep it together in school.

His teacher is covering for the head at the moment who has taken over another school in trouble so he has this teacher and another stand in. I emailed him and asked whether he wanted to discuss matters before the doctor's appointment but his response was 'I'm happy to give feedback if asked'. I don't think he realised the appointment was at the school.

So, no, no SENCO and no feedback from teachers to say there is any problem. They probably think I'm making a fuss about nothing - but they don't have to get him out of the house in the morning!!

At home, from our point of view, in terms of eating and dressing, things are getting worse. For example, twice this week he has come home with sandwiches he has spat out (sorry if tmi!) into his lunchback because he can't stand the smell of other people's food!

he calls it being 'allergic' to things!