Should I let him go?

[5inthebed]

As usual, I am thinking way ahead of myself.

DS2 is now doing 2 half days at MS school, as well as his 5 mornings at his SN school. Today he came back with a permission slip for a trip that is happening in April (to a farm), and a message that he is more than welcome to come on the trip even though it isn't on his usual day at MS school.

I would LOVE him to go on this trip, but very apprehensive about him going. He has ASD (if you don't already know) and has no fear of danger. He runs away all the time and is very hard to control if not given the proper commands (and even then can be challenging). The school do take a lot of TA's with them and the groups are quite small. He would be with the TA who is assigned to him, but I am in no doubt she will have other kids with her as well.

What to do, what to do??

I am thinking of asking his SN school if one of their TAs can go with him, or do you think this is a bit extreme? Should I let him go with the school, but prepare them before hand? What if I let them take his SN pram? Or do you think that would be unfair on ds2?

could you go as a helper?

A Major is a good idea - if your ds would tolerate it/be willing to sit in it. Even if he walked some of the way, he could then sit in it if he needed a rest/became upset/needed time out/for management purposes, etc.

If your ds needs 1-1, then the MS school should provide that and nothing less.

If the trip happens on his SN school day, then asking his TA from that school to accompany him may not be a bad idea?

I could possibly go as a helper, but it would mean leaving ds3 with someone.

Actually 2shoes, that is a very good suggestion, I never even though of that!

I shall ask the school tomorrow and voice my concerns.

I've either accompanied ds as a helper, but jsut to be 1:1 for him, or requested 1:1 to be provided, and for them to hold his hand at all times.
I think nowadays they haev to be so careful on school trips, I've not had a problem yet.

I would request for a 1:1 to be with him at all times.

If he needs 1:1, I am sure they'll make sure he has it - they don't want him to run off any more than you do!

Ask them to show you a copy of their risk assessment, and ask who has been assigned to be his 1:1 (ask it like there's no doubt it's happening, you just want to know who it is.)

Well I have to say I am very impressed. I went to see them today when picking ds2 up, and they said they had already arranged for his 1:1. The TA who cares for him during his 2 days is going to do it So very pleased. And here was me worrying about it last night. So the school who really dragged their feet in allowing ds2 into their nursery are now performing so much better than I expected! Can't wait to take him to school that morning, as I can drop ds1 off as well, something I've not done this school year