I keep saying that I am going to stop worrying and going on about this but what has happened over the last few days has really, really upset me. Perhaps I shouldn't have posted this on other websites or on your forum but to be honest seeing as I don't have the right to defend myself on their forum I did want to put my side of the story across to others. And actually it has been helpful to receive messages and emails from others who have been treated the same way by the same people. honestly I thought i was going mad because I agree with what some of you have said, why would people act like this for no reason??
I am just so upset about what has been written, lots of it is simply not true and I can't understand why they have said it, I have lost friends over this. It's easy to say that its just a forum, move on, but the friends I made on there are people i have spoken to on the phone, they have come to my house and my children's birthday parties so it does hurt to have these lies told about me, and have lots of people believe them.
I can't prove what I have or haven't done, you'll just have to believe me, or not believe me if you want to. I did send a complaint, which had nothing offensive in it at all, if anyone wants to see it and make their own mind up just ask, I will happily send it. And yes, there was a conversation on somebody's facebook, but there were no names mentioned, of people or forums, and there were a lot of angry messages, from a lot of people. Mine didn't have any swearing, my comment said that I thought they should stop feeling sorry for themselves and support this one member, that I thought that they had a moral obligation to support members who are struggling because of something that arose on their forum. Perhaps this wasn't the most sensitive thing to say, and I wouldn't have framed a complaint in those terms, but I was talking to friends and the conversation was deleted pretty soon anyway... I just don't know why I was singled out.
And I will admit that I joined again under a false name, so I could access the forum but of course there was no sinister reason behind this, I'm still a parent of children with special needs, I still want information about equipment and wavs and everything.
That is it, that is what I have done, whether you think that it is a heinous crime is up to you. There was no vicious attack on the charity or any of its members, no starting arguments, no nastiness, nothing, really. I had no communication with the charity aside from 1 very short email asking for the outcome of the meeting, I will also happily send a copy of this to anyone too, but it is a bit of nothing really. If they really were sent threatening emails, they certainly haven't come from me, by any stretch of the imagination, but I'm sure they will have copies of them and can address it with the person who sent them or the police, rather than imply it was me. I really don't know where they've got all this from. I can't believe they are saying these things about me, I don't what to believe myself, I find myself wondering, has somebody been corresponding with them in my name?? i'm just baffled. I don't know really what i'm even accused of because they will not talk to me about it, even after I gave them my phone no with the original complaint.
well now at least I have been able to reply to the things said about me, I hope that others will read it and think about it.. I can't make you believe me, I know it's their word against mine and when it comes down to it who are you going to believe? it just beggars belief that a group of people, trustees of a registered charity, would just downright lie to justify themselves. i'm not really sure how all this has happened myself.
but this is it, I don't want to deal with it any more, I'm tired. this has upset me far more than it should have done. my daughter has sent a complaint to the charity commission because she has seen what it has done to me, they can deal with it from now on. sorry for using your forum for this, just ignore if you want to, thanks for keeping an open mind
and I AGREE that there are lots and lots of wonderful supportive people who use the forum and I have also made very good friends, this is why i am so upset about it. i'm not attacking its members at all.