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just needed to ask some advise

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bubblagirl · 22/02/2009 15:47

i have on several occasions found bubbla boy hitting himself and thought nothing of it maybe id seen wrong etc

today i walked to his room and he was punching himself in the head and he hit himself so hard it made him cry

he doesn't understand the why question so is unable to tell me why he was doing this there was nothing leading up to it he sees no violence and we don't hit him

all there was was him asking for video and id said id be one minute but this isnt the first time and now i know that i hadn't just seen wrong before

is this normal for someone with ASD should i be concerned ive said don't hit yourself and he just kept crying as if he didn't understand why he had done it and im not sure what to do

thanks in advance

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bubblagirl · 22/02/2009 15:51

think i may have worded it wrong not that is it normal for people q with ASD to go around hitting themselves but is it normal in other children is it away of dealing with things they dont understand i dont know im confused and never had to deal with this before either

sorry if it all sounds weird but im worried for him and dont know right words to say what i want

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5inthebed · 22/02/2009 16:26

My ds2 does this. On and off. Usually he does it when he is aggitated by something or really tired. It is worrying when he starts doing it, but can't understand why he does it. He doesn't understand "why" either.

Sorry, wasn't much help there was I.

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bubblagirl · 22/02/2009 16:59

it was a help to know that its not just ds that feels the need to do this just shocked me as id convinced myself before that id seen wrong

but today there was no doubting and the sound as he was doing it i could have cried as he seemed so shocked by it also and was so distraught and i couldn't find out why at all

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5inthebed · 22/02/2009 17:02

Sometimes ds2 argueswith his hand. Really shout and screams at it as if it has said something awful to him. He will even smack said hand with his other hand, hurting himself by doing so. Really odd thing to see.

amber32002 · 22/02/2009 17:04

Pictures or gestures might help rather than words. And let him wrap himself in something if he can. Sounds like he's not feeling well/has a headache anyway/is really totally tired out and is way beyond reason. Hitting himself is a way to try to cancel out the sensory overload from whatever else has happened, but we're so bad at saying what has caused it.

Might be worth listing out all that happened or didn't happen from his usual routine since the day started, to see if there's been something else that seemed ok to you but is a big 'trigger' for him.

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bubblagirl · 22/02/2009 17:11

i think it could just be tiredness and me not going to put video on when he wanted me too as i was just seeing to the dinner and when his tired everything is too much

just frightened me to see him standing there hitting his head but it was also the shock on his face that he didn't appear aware of what he was doing

he just kept pointing at his head where he hurt it and then i wrapped him in my arms and he just sobbed for ages it breaks my heart as when he was first dx 9 mths ago he really didn't have issues as such and now as his getting older more have arisen and i don't know what to expect or what to do,

ive phoned sn hv to see if we can arrange a meeting regarding the sleep issues as he really is a different boy when his slept, everything is a struggle for him leaving the house motivating himself without screaming and hitting

today he has had more energy has spent alot of time with me for the last week he has just shut himself away pushing me away if i see him today his sat with me nearly all day in same room so not sure what has caused it

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bubblagirl · 22/02/2009 18:06

thanks busy my ds communication is fairly good now from 3.6 his speech came along great some understanding issues still danger awareness, why, certain tasks not understood

i think its all stemmed from the no sleep its just upsetting to watch as its hard when its new and you dont understand it

i guess i'll have to distract where i can and just give him lots of love after hoping it doesnt become worse and he can handle not slef harming although i'll still tell hv when i see her as he was due a review in dec with pediatrician that never happened so i want all these issues dealt with as were going through statement and dont want them to give false view of his needs as so many changes since dx

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intheLiffey · 22/02/2009 18:12

oh bubblagirl, I didn't see your thread before I started mine. My son wants to cut himself with a scissors to see blood at the moment. What are they like? That upset me.

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bubblagirl · 22/02/2009 18:32

oh no intheliffey its horrible isnt it my das is 3.10 and never displayed acts like this before i caught him few weeks back really smacking his bum hard i didn't know why we don't do it that worried me but didn't think anything of it thought i may have seen wrong

but on few occasions ive seen him but today was really hitting his head but it was the fright on his face that done it showed me he wasn't aware of why he was doing that

poor things if only we know what was going on to really be able to help them

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intheLiffey · 22/02/2009 18:50

At least it's not a regular thing, you'd be afraid of the next two minutes all the time.

My son doesn't actually want to hurt himself, he just wants to see bloody so badly that if he hurts himself in the process he'll hardly notice that!!

We are waiting for our report. My son has been through ADOS, DISCO and SENCO, so I keep thinking that the report is going to arrive and I'm going to read it and understand it ... and know what's going on in his head

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bubblagirl · 23/02/2009 07:54

thanks guys its good to know im not alone in this

every time something new arises i feel so lost as i got used to what we dealt with before and had control and now i feel out of my depth i have no idea how to deal with any of the new things coming about

but as always i can count on all of you to understand and listen to me and help me thank you all just don't like the feeling of i don't know what im doing and stupidly i dont like the fact he is displaying signs of having something wrong i know that sounds so silly but we were always able to get away from comments and bad behavior when out

not its struggle to get out behavior is challenging comments are made and i don't want him to struggle i don't want people commenting on my child who clearly is struggling not misbehaving i don't like the fact i have to disclose stuff about him or feel that i have to

i know that sounds silly but clearly we all just want our children to not struggle and to have only good thins done and said to them

and its all still so new to me been under a yr since dx i know they'll be more changes ahead for me to deal with im just glad i can come on here as no one understands in rl and i guess im just sleep deprived and feeling down well i guess it'll all work out in the end

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