Depressing Question (sorry) re guardians

[chocaholic73]

We are trying to update our Wills and know that there is no one suitable we know of who could take on DD. I dont have any family, DHs parents have never understood her issues and anyway are now getting on in years. All our friends have now moved on from the young child phase (DD is younger than their children to start with) and there is no one appropriate who really could or would do this if it is necessary. Have any of you found yourself in this position and what did you do? Thanks

I am in the same situation and it is a huge worry of mine. I just don't know what to do either.

well that makes two of us! Anyone else?

We have a similar dilemma and are looking into setting up a trust fund, with trusties (money guardians) to look after ds interests. We we given the name of solicitors who specialise in financial planning for dependents, but I must admit it is the actual guardians I cannot work out, as ds will need care beyond childhood.

magso do you know if you could actually pay someone to be a trustee like a solicitor for example, rather than a family member or a friend?

Yes, I have no worries about setting up a trust fund, we have caring friends including DDs godfather who will be happy to do this and will take an interest but it's the actual guardians that is the problem.

Sorry macwoozy haven't seen the solicitor yet but my husbands understanding is that it is usual to have at least one paid professional ( accountant, solicitor) as trustee.

I have been discussing this with a friend, luckily I have my sister who would be guardian to my two, should anything happen to dh & I.
My friend has no family to help & no dh & had assumed that nobody would want to take on her challenging boys but actually 2 of her friends volunteered & now I am their official guardian should anything happen to her. Although 4 boys (3 with very different sn) would be a challenge

Have you discussed this with friends, you never know people may be more willing to commit than you think! I was actually a little upset to think that my friend thought I wouldn't give a home to her boys.