DS, AS, has been very violent and angry and impossible I need help please

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DS 2.6 has been under the weather lately but right now he hasnt got a temperature & has had calpol. The last week has been so hard as we have all been very ill but his behaviour has been dare I say almost like one possessed. He has been throwing big things at us, hitting his Daddy with his guitar, throwing a wooden toy box, throwing his potty, the list goes on. When we try to talk to him he screams "dont talk to me!" he will ask us for help and we will go to help him and he will then hit us and scream at us to go away. It has just been constant. I dont know what to do. Me and DH could not possibly be trying any harder to work to his rules but nothing we do is right and he is miserable. I need help.

please help it is getting so much worse and he is screaming awfully and really hurting me kicking & hitting

sounds just like my ds at the moment his 3.9 and very tired and he is always like this i find putting him in his room to watch dvd and be alone helps and he'll come back when his ready rather than me try to calm him it doesn't work he pushes and screams and shouts stop talking go away

ive found its kinder on him to give him his own space to be alone as when my ds is ill or tired he cannot handle all the noises around him and even having the curtains open can affect him

i darken his room put soft light on put dvd player on and let him play alone in there its easier on him to settle and be calm

when his well again he doesnt act like this so i know now to leave him alone

my ds also does the calling for me refusing to talk to me and when i ask what he wants screams stop talking etc

its very waring

if you can pop a nappy on him take him to his room quieten it down and calm leave drink and snacks and let him rela sometimes too many voices lights and sound really affects my sons mood being alone in calm atmosphere helps him loads just him a dvd and his games console

i give my son choices calmly do you want me to do this or this and then i'll walk away if no answer i'll go back again and calmly ask he'll snap his answer i'll say well done for telling mummy do it and then just leave i wont engage in too much conversation as it will start again

i don't have too much advise but i truly sympathize as going through the same

I agree with bubbla - but appreciate it may be easier said than done to get him to his room and stay in his room!

The NAS has some information about behaviour:-
www.nas.org.uk/nas/jsp/polopoly.jsp?d=1071&a=8385

and a helpline - 0845 070 4004.

thank you. I was leaving him alone but he was crying for me to come to him saying he was hurt so I did and each time he threw something at me, his toy hoover or pushed the kitchen chair onto my back, all sorts of things. So I would go away again. He has literally beaten me today. I feel shell shocked. I will call the NAS. I dont know how to do this.

the whole time in the hell of it all I was shaking in terror that the neighbours would call the police he was shrieking so much it sounded like he was being tortured.

i find when my ds is like that its best to just leave him dont try to calm him dont try to talk to him i found this would only make him worse

could you calmly give 2 choices of something to do lay in bed and watch tv or do a game with you then when calm praise him for playing nicely

my ds is basically unapproachable if tired or ill i cant go out and we dont do anything at home he stays in his room in the quiet playing his games or watching tv i leave him to come and see me when his ready and if he appears to get frustr4ated i leave him alone again

i have no other advise im afraid as all our children respond differently i jsut find darkened room and peace works wanders for him he wants to be involved he just cant handle it and is happier left alone

big hugs to you though its hard took me a good 9 mths to get to know how to handle the outbursts and to not feel guilty leaving him alone but to reaslise thats what he needs

its hard isnt it because they are ill and dont mean it but its hard work non the less.

when DS is under the weather he likes to get in our bed,in our room and watch tv,dvds.
he doesnt want to talk and we usually send him text messages, he is a lot older than your DS tho,hes 12.

when he was younger,i remember making him a "sick bed" on the couch,we would lie him down,tuck him in tight and close the blinds,curtains and have the tv on low, and no visitors.

DD is almost 5 and has had a lot of medical problems and spent days on the ouch under a cover,we find the same works with her as well, (she is ASD too)just making a calmer environment.

hope he is feeling better soon,i know how exhausting it is.

When my son (almost 5) gets like this I find the best thing is to put him in his buggy (has a Major buggy) in front of the television. He seems to feel secure in there and quietens down immediately and can have a rest. I stay in the same room but leave him alone for a while. Once he's had a rest we all feel better!

Oops forgot I still had to choose a name! Oh decisions, decisions!

Hi there.

DH of HIDTL here.
Thanks to all for advice. HIDTL has gone to bed. She has pneumonia at the moment so not in exactly a fit state. Unfortunately I had to go to the docs this morning just as DS was kicking off like this.

I think it will take us a while to adjust to this. We are learning what it means to have an AS LO.

NKetcetcetc - hope you find a name soon.

it take s a while im still learning its been just under a yr and so many changes good and bad i have to keep relearning each change in behavior all my best to you all

Hope the rest of the day is more peaceful for you. Only 2-2.5 hours till bedtime and counting.