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DS starts preschool tomorrow - deep breath - I am panicking to say the least!

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hereidrawtheline · 04/02/2009 13:14

DS is supposed to start preschool tomorrow. I am now praying they wont shut due to snow as he is expecting it and will be crushed if its cancelled.

He is going each Thursday for the morning session (3 hours). He has never been in childcare and this is really to help him experience more things that I cant provide on my own, socialisation, and the general fun of it! The school is brilliant I couldnt praise them highly enough. Extremely sensitive women running it and truly they are great. We have been going there for visits over the last 2 years and I always come away counting my blessings that he has a place there. Its not pretentious at all (a good thing in my very upper-middle class village!), its very kind and inclusive.

The Head there is SENCO trained and will be there each Thursday, and he will have a key worker. They are aware of his AS and are eager to help in any way. Their policy is that parents can stay for whole sessions if they like so we can stay to help him settle.

We have been there twice in two weeks to help build him up to it and I have to say each time we have left he has been kicking and screaming he loves it so much! And when we get there he tends to just get on with it and doesnt look for me while I am sitting in the corner of the room. So all good things.

On a visit recently another boy started bullying him saying "go away" and throwing sand at him. DS said "NO!" and continued playing for which I was proud. But he talked about it for 2 days afterwards. And he rewrites history. Now when he tells the story he tells it that he and the boy are best friends. He cant cope with negativity at all.

I worry for him simply because he is so sensitive and easily hurt. And although I know the workers there are brilliant they wont be as tuned into him as I am and so will miss the tiny little shadows that cross his face to signify he has been hurt by something.

I want him to have this experience, I know he wants it, I know he needs it. But I dread sending my vulnerable baby out anywhere without me there to protect him.

Come on ladies boost my confidence!

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boccadellaverita · 04/02/2009 14:56

It's natural that you feel apprehensive but this pre-school sounds lovely and very capable of catering for your son's needs. I hope you both have a lovely morning.

(I have no expertise on SN, by the way, but didn't want your post to go unanswered. I'm sure others will come by soon ...)

BriocheDoree · 04/02/2009 16:19

When DD started school at 3 I didn't know she had SN. She wasn't toilet trained (should have been). School knew nothing about her because we hadn't realised she was SN. School was in a language she didn't speak (she's bilingual with speech/language disorder). She had had a new baby brother six weeks before. She had all sort of social issues which I hadn't really recognised because I didn't know she had SN...

She LOVED it. Hardly cried, loved being around all the other kids, loved the activities.

Your preschool sounds lovely. I really hope your DS enjoys it. You will miss him terribly but it will do him a lot of good!

Tclanger · 04/02/2009 18:38

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Phoenix4725 · 04/02/2009 19:00

yep my son hs come on really well to point imkeeping him there rather than send school this year but i remember how scared i was that he not be able make his needsknown but he does

hereidrawtheline · 04/02/2009 19:10

Thanks for the encouragement. (and thanks for bumping & answering bocca )

I am sure it will be fantastic! I just want to protect him and of course I cant do that from everything can I?

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5inthebed · 04/02/2009 19:59

My ds2 started nursery before he was diagnosed, and they were lovely about it when we explained that we were waiting for an autism dx. One of the teachers had had some training on autism and had worked with autistic kids before. I cried, and ds2 loved it.

I hope your ds has a lovely first day at nursery, you're probably a lot more nervous and apprehensive than he is.

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