what to do next daughter been hurt at school

[Phoenix4725]

Ok i have problem have spent most the day a Aand E after daughter nt age 5 got shoved down stairs and landed on by another child who i know has sn

obviousy as my ds has sn himself though hes is very passive i can feel for the mum but also i now have a 5 year old dd with broken arm nd it is not the first time they clashed shes very small compred to him.shes year 1 and si eof 3year old hes year 2a nd big s 8 ,9 year old

I just dont knwo how to hande it my fist reaction was not at the chid but at the school that this was allowed to happen obviously i want mke sure nothing simiar happens ,but i also dont want to be the nasty mum that makes his mum feel bad by complaing k, knowing some point i could be in aawkwrd situation myself

oh and to expain the landed was fallen on was jumped on

Do you know the other childs parents? Could you maybe have a chat with them? If it were the other way round would you rather they spoke to you or went to the school HT.

Think, personally, I'd rather somebody come and discuss issues with me if my own SN DS was a problem to them.... Not sure what I'd say or suggest though.

On the other hand, it sounds more than likely that the school may have to speak to the parents anyway. Should you head them off and go there first?

Poor dd!
My first thought (having a tall sn boy with no understanding of danger and the worlds worst spacial awareness) is to write formally to the school. With my son I was desparate to get support for him in the playground and told other parents who complained to me to ask for this too! Your dd has a right to health and safety at school, and whilst her injury was perhaps not intended a child who would (for whatever reason) push another down stairs needs supervision! I think the phrase is duty of care - to both children.

Agree with Magso.
Poor DD, I hope she gets better soon.

sorry to hear your DD has been so badly hurt. I agree with magso. The problem with talking to the parents is that they will have a limited impact on how their child behaves and is supervised at school; it's the school that needs to review it's arrangements.

thanks you

had long talk with the head explained that i understand how the parents must feel but tht something needs to be put in place stop it happening again and that till there is im not going allows my DD to go outside in the playground when he is , though shes going be of week or so anyway
, feel like shite though becaause know it wil bring whole heap of trouble on kids parents and fully aware that my ds while atm hes very passive could be shoe on the foot some day , but got to put her first.
And yes parents have got to spolen to as well as notify h and s as it required hospital visit