He can't say much but...

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We had a meeting this morning to see if DS1 could have some play sessions at a local nursery. The Head was very friendly and so on but kept waffling on about although she would love to help, she wasn't sure if she could meet his needs etc. DS1 (ASD) got his coat and said ' Going Out, Going Playpark' . So we did. It takes NT adults a long time to say nothing as she had been waffling for nearly half an hour !

sensible chap, your DS1.

well yes, quite, I agree TClang. Hope you had a nice time at the playground.

I bet it was the most sensible thing to be said in that room!

Hope he enjoyed the park.

ha! cut to the chase.

She did ask if he had any special talents - I felt like saying, 'He can file all your tax returns telephathically and scan all your body cells for pre cancerous changes, how does that fit in with what other autistic children you have met can do?'

Cyber, Oh yes, and we can teleport between locations and cause weather storms by staring at the sky .

I'd say any head that has the attitude of "we don't know if we can" is trying to say "sod off".

I'd be down the park with your DS rather than listen to that, definitely. Ever watch the Lord of the Rings film in which they listen to the talking trees discussing things for several hours and it turns out all they've agreed is that the hobbits aren't the enemy? That's how most NT conversations are for us. We're fast and blunt .

Took me many, many years to learn that whilst the correct answer may be 'no' to some questions, we're not allowed to just say no. We have to phrase it as (for example) "Thank you for taking the time and trouble to explain your position. I am most grateful. Under the circumstances and given all we know about this situation, I am not sure that this best fulfils our core criteria, so regrettably we may have to decline on this occasion". This must of course be accompanied by eye contact, body language, facial expressions. (sigh)

amber you put that so well!

cyber keep trying other nurseries, I hope you have better luck. Look at it this way your clever DS has weeded out one that clearly isnt good enough so saved you a lot of hassle!