DS is taking the mick is'nt he?

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DS, almost 8 has AS, he has frequent bladder accident (always has done) however he seems to have improved during school, most days just 1 accident, but at home he very rarely uses the toilet at all, I never punish him in any way, and make sure home life is relaxing, fun and as much to a routine as possible, but I am starting to think he could use the toilet more and feel he is just taking the mick now.

He had no accidents at school today, but since he has been home he has weed on the sofa, on the computer chair, and on his bed, straight through the duvet and everything else, he also pood himself, he has not used the toilet once today at home, I think I need to introduce some mild punishment now, but worry just on the off chance they really are genuine accidents, and am afraid to say I lost it tonight when I discovered he's weed on his bed and sent him to bed

Could you put in some sort of reward system for when he does use the loo - rather than punishing he when he doesn't? Maybe if he has a certain amount of time accident free a sticker or small sweet?

Hi sarah, I have tried that several times, I have tried so many things, nothing works, paedatrician, child phycologist and other proffesions have tried to help too, he has also has many tests run, and all were fine, so its nothing physical, I have been toilet training him for 5 years, most of the time its fine, I just plod along and deal with it, but sometimes, like today it gets me down as I just cant see a light at the end of the tunnel.

Its so difficult isn't it knowing if they there is genuinely a problem related to their SN's or if they are just being little monkeys!! Have you seen his psych recently? I would go an pick their brains for strategies for dealing with it. It's sounds psychological if it's not happening at school, but if it's stress related then punishment could make things worse.