I really don't want this to sound patronising, but I did want to share my experience this morning.
I went to Tescos with ds, and at the checkout noticed a young woman who was going along picking up the baskets and saying hello to each cashier - I only noticed her because she was so cheery. Then ds spills all his blueberries on the floor, and she comes rushing over to tell me not to worry, she will get a cleaner. It was only then that I realised she had DS. She got a cleaner - and more blueberries for me, and was amusing ds whilst I packed my bags.
Now I know that stacking baskets at Tesco's might not be the most stimulating job in the world, but I found it really nice that this woman was working, so obviously has some level of independence, and that she seemed to be really integrated into the store - her colleagues weren't treating her differently, and it didn't seem like customers were either.