The thing is DS can be aggressive, which is why they are suggesting the EBD.
Its clear that he's not going to be able to go to MS in sept. He's been out of school for 6 months now with anxiety and other issues and having home tution. He's not even coping with the demands that is placing on him at the moment.
I've found a MS school with an inclusion base which I think will be great for him, but its going to be some time before he's ready for it, and is going to need some time at a special school as a stepping stone back to MS.
The local special school has 3 sites, one is the EBD site, one is MLD (which he does not have), and the other deals with more medical and emotional issues i.e. school phobics etc.
I've asked that he attends the third site, its a lovely quiet small school, they have experience of ASD, it just seems ideal for him.
The issue is that because the 3 sites are all techically the same school, by naming this school for his statement they are saying that I am unable to 'pick and choose' between the sites and that J will be sent to whichever one the placing team decide to be most appropriate. The man from the SEN team (who hates me because I make his life difficult!), says that he will almost certinally be placed in the EBD because he can be aggressive.
I've worked with EBD children before, and J is completely different in his needs. He's extremely vulerable to other children, as he has no clue if people are being honest, manipulative, are genuinely being his friend etc! He would either be lead by these children and be out stealing cars and robing grannies, or he would be picked on. The busy, noisy unstructed environment of EBD would also be detrimental to him as he has big problems with noise, hustle, lack of routine etc.