what sn terms do you hate(official ones not rude ones0, today I decided I HATE

[saint2shoes]

drooling....dh said it and I asked him if dd was a st bernard I know it is a proper term, but I even tell the ENT consultant to say dribble lol.
so what are yours.......

I hate the word different at the moment. I prefer to say my ds2 is quirky

Incapable, which is a term often used in documentation and the like. I think it is far better to use terms such as needs support to do x. Myself and many of my collegues also prefer to focus on what an individual can do rather that what they can't do.

Incontinence pads, makes me think of the elderly. They are nappies as far as I and the families that I work with are concerned.

dd's school just says pads.(not tah dd now uses them)

I hate 'drooling' too.

I hate all the American terms like handicapped and crippled which are in everyday use there.

Yep special- all my kids are special. DS2 actuallya sked if he wasnt as special once as he found ds1 and ds3's statement of special needs but not his.

'Normal' and even worse, a word my MIL uses: 'sub-normal' - EXCUSE ME!!!! & , are you implying that my child is below 'normal'??? TBH i dont know what im more insulted at! (either abnormal, or belownormal - i think hes quite normal, just has a few extra quirks thats all)

"special" - much more specific educational needs for "sen". "normal" - so anything other is "abnormal".

meant prefer specific educational needs to stand for sen.

My mum and dad both use the term sub normal - I cringe every time I hear it. I hate the words retard, or retarded, I read them somewhere recently. My MIL has said a couple of times that she doesn't know how we cope with a "child like that". That's pissed me off.

However, I like the term quirky and if DS2 does find things a bit difficult we talk about it being 'tricky'. Tricky has been a very helpful word to use at home.

can I add shame(even though it is official) but considering so many people say "oh isn't it a shame" it might as well be.

handicaped- makes me think of cups on hands! lol -hate it with a vengence!

There's one that just grinds my gears and I don't know why: Handicapable....urgh sounds so patronising.