Just had a crap day at work. Anyone else really emotional since having a SN child?

[nikos]

Most of the time I cope with ds and his problems and get on with doing what I have to do. But had a rotten day today at work, usual office politics stuff which I would have taken in my stride before. Instead I find myself hiding in the toilets crying . Someone come and tell me Im not going mad.(even if its a possibility that I am)

Hands over wine come join me round the bend.

but yes sometimes I feel like it all gets to much n d i end up teary over anything and i dont have half the problems that the others do on here

Lots of hugs! Big glass of wine!

And you're not madder than the rest of us, if that's any consolation.

I find it re-surfaces at the oddest moments. Things I thought I had coped with and got over years ago hit me for no particular reason. Particularly embarrassing if dd happens to be coping well at the time, so it's only me going emotional (I do try to hide it though).

My friend and I once had a discussion about how emotional we had became since having our ds's (who have CP) we think; that it is a rare parent who doesn't have some sort of depression whether its post natal or post traumtic after their child has a SN dx.

I think its connected with someone at work being disagreeable to me and while they were doing it I was thinking of ds, and surprised I was thinking of him. I think life with a sn child is so tough that it feels much worse than it used to when another area of your life becomes tough. Was surprised how many tears were there though.

Yes, it gets too much sometimes and I have a good cry or rant. Work has also been tricky this week. DS2 kept running away from me at the swimming pool today (he can't swim yet) DD3 had a lesson. It was horrible, being stared at .... again. I could go on and on...!

Wine, I think.

Sorry you've had a crap day. I think its just the sum total of things at times; I've had a stack of family crap to sort out and that combined with DS1's dx has made life a bit hard going recently. I'm still a bit raw from the DX and feel like I'm bumbling around haphazardly trying to work out what the way forward is. Only I don't know where to start!

I hope tomorrow is better for you.

I am exactly the same!! Can be quite embarassing trying to shop in Tesco's crying like a baby!!!!

Oh bloody hell. I go back to work in March - my only hope is that no-one will dare cross me!

Ooh! Me Too! (makes mental note to change name to Granny Murray).

Glass of wine over here please... Nope just the full bottle and a straw but please send me home if I start to dance .

Even years in, more than ever, it catches me how frightening it is and how much of my life is taken over by this....

I cry at anything and everything these days, used to be a real hard nose too.

Thanks for your good wishes it helps enormously. Feelingbetter- I do really like having work to go to so don't want to scare you! Only 2 days a week and lets me forget for a while normally.

Don't give up on the work nikos, it's your link to the old you. It'd be like giving up on your oldest bestest school friend.

I cry at absolutely anything since having dc's. I used to find myself walking down the street or driving with tears streaming down my face at the height of the worry with ds last year. In some ways it's toughened me up and I don't get upset at things which don't matter - I now consider work in that way, a massive shift from how I used to be. I use ds to put everything else in perspective and it does often help.
Sorry you've had such a rotten day nikos. Hope tomorrow is much better for you!

oh yes.... x

You are not alone.

I think it's because life is hard enough with a SN child, so when you get work/family/health/other children all thrown into the mix it doesn't take much to upset me. It's as if what used to be trivial incidents become so much more problematic.

For example our work car park was full today, of people parking there that shouldn't and don't have permits. So I stomped into the office, had a whinge then hid sheepishly behind my computer as the IT bloke there to fix someone's laptop slunk out to move his car

I find it's the little things, things that should be really easy to sort out, that when go wrong are the things that set me off.

DS2 needs a medication that is made specially for him. Every time I get a repeat prescription the doctor gets it wrong - they need to write a prescription by hand, they can't just click it on a computer generated list - and I write a note on the prescription request to that effect. I also point out to them that there is a note on DS2's records as to exactly the dosage he needs.

Every single time the doctor gets it wrong.

Last time I just completely lost it with the chemist, I burst into tears. Luckily the chemist and I were able to go and see the GP and fix it up straight away, but I was in tears with her too.

The GP realised though that I wasn't upset about the prescription, just the shitty hand we've been dealt with in life....

Thank you all for taking the time to reply. Im going to have an early night and things will probably seem brighter in the morning.

Oh yes and the prescription story rings a bell with me, DD used to have one that had to be specially done and every single pharmacist would question it. Took me ages to find somewhere reliable thatwould actually get it in intime as it had a short shelf life too. The amount of heated conversations I've had with pharmacists who have told me its expensive as if I should feel bad ffs!

Sorry just realised that turned into an off topic rant! What I mean is yes I get far more emotional now and I think its because I can just about cope when things go to plan but something like someone being unpleasant or making things hard will just tip the balance and I get very upset.