to start dd,s desensitising programme for her phobia around toileting.
it went very well,they listened to us carefully and said they considered us the experts as dd,s parents and that they will take on board everything we tell them.
so, they are going to go to school next week and "make friends" with DD with some dora stickers and ITNG sticker book.
Then in 3 weeks time they want a hierachy list of things she finds enjoyable right up to things she hates,toileting being the no1.
they said its a gradual process,to prepare ourselves for upset and stress particularly as we work ourselves up the list and especially when the time comes to toilet her.
they are going to prepare school staff as well for her being extremely upset and how to deal with her and also they will be present and they will be present in our home for toilet training.
i know im going to be extremely upset by dd,s reaction and that we havent seen the full force of it (i welled up today when she said that to us) but as the psych said to get her over her fear she has to confront it and i know its best for dd,shes nearly 5 and although she has bowel problems they assure me that children can and do toilet train with bowel problems but they will take that into account.