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Aaargh, just a rant

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 16/01/2009 12:00

Does anyone else feel they are treated as neurotic?

DD (2.3) had first session at playgroup today. She has hypotonia and hypermobility and a mild motor delay. I talked to the playgroup leader in advance and explained and they said she would be given extra support etc, so i felt happy to send her as I really feel she should mix with other kids.

When I got there it transpired there was a concrete flight of stairs to garden and the kids are basically left to go up and down them. When I said I was worried I was just told "they are good at finding their way up and down".

I explained to the play leader that I am not just being a protective parent but that I am genuinely concerned for her welfare but you could clearly tell they all thought I was exactly that, a neurotic hovering mother.

So I have agreed to stay and give some extra help until she is physically confident there.

i appreciate it's my decision to send her to an NT playgroup, and that it's hard to supervise lots of toddlers but it just really gets me down sometimes. I had the same problem trying to get her supportive boots before she could walk as the people in the shoe shop wouldn't sell us them, even though I said her physio had recommended it.

It just got to me a bit today, am actually crying a bit just from a playgroup visit

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alfiemama · 16/01/2009 13:13

God Fanjo, I would be the same, don't blame you at all, I think its good that you are willing to give it a go.

Is there no other playgroup that would be better suited though?

Seuss · 16/01/2009 13:16

I would be concerned about a 2 year old with no special needs going up and down concrete stairs - especially when they are with other children and excitable. I realise it's probably not something they can do much about but I'd hope they'd watch children using the stairs very carefully. You are definately not being neurotic and please don't think you are.

sarah293 · 16/01/2009 13:17

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TotalChaos · 16/01/2009 13:20

Agree with Seuss. You're not being neurotic at all.

HelensMelons · 16/01/2009 13:25

No, not being at all neurotic. Staff perhaps not really taking on board your concerns for your DD.

TallulahToo · 16/01/2009 13:31

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 16/01/2009 13:40

Thanks everyone. I think I will just grow a thick skin and go there with her until she is physically more able. I'm SURE they don't want me to be there but I will just take a paper and lurk in the corner until they are all going outside when i can leap into action.

I will also look into the extra support, Riven, if it seems she will need more help than I can provide, or for a longer time.

I have looked into other playgroups but the other one she is eligible for takes them out on daytrips etc all linked together and she couldn't keep up yet.

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Mitchell81 · 16/01/2009 14:21

You are definetley not being an over protective mother. I would be worried about my NT 2 year and concrete stairs at Playgroup. Hope you get something sorted and she gets some extra support. Hopefully they will get tired of you sitting in the corner and provide the correct help for her.

lou031205 · 16/01/2009 15:26

FFTM, you could take the bull by the horns and ask them to have the Area Inclusion Officer assess her.

My DD has developmental delays, physically and in other areas, and it took just 1 visit from the AIO to secure full 1:1. Ironically, I hadn't been massively aware of her needs until then, because I had always been able to support her & compensate.

The whole point of playgroup is to allow your DD to grow as a little person, in part away from Mum! You shouldn't be needing to fill a hole in their provision.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 16/01/2009 15:42

That sounds like a really good idea.

Unfortunately I am in Scotland and I dont' think they have them here.

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5inthebed · 16/01/2009 16:55

Feeling a bit that the playgroup made you feel so neurotic. How awful for you. I'd be worried about any child of that age doing those stairs.

I agree with Lou, you shouldnt have to stay to help them out with DD around the stairs.DD should be allowed to be left and they should provide the extra care you have asked for. How hard is it to make sure that she isnt by the stairs by herself?

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