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Well just when you think things couldn't get any worse

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sphil · 11/12/2008 18:26

DS2 fell in the playground on Tuesday and broke his leg - spiral fracture of the lower tibia. He has been put in a full leg cast and isn't allowed to weight bear for 4-6 weeks.

It's a disaster tbh. Those of you who've seen my thread in Health will know that my Mum has just been dx with cancer. I was intending to be over there as much as possible, helping out, going to appts with them etc. And now I have DS2 at home for 6 weeks. It also takes two of us to lift him in and out of his wheelchair, which means that DH will have to take time off work - the physio and OT experimented with swivel seats and walking frames today at the hospital but DS2 just doesn't have the motor processing skills to be able to manage them. And he doesn't get the fact he can't put weight on his leg, although he's in too much pain atm to try. He just keeps saying 'shoes, shoes' and gesturing at the plaster. I'll do a simple social story when I've got time, but it'll be difficult because he doesn't understand time.

On a positive (!) note, he was absolutely fantastic at the hospital, despite being in pain and hating the X rays and plastering. Once we'd finished all that he was very calm and accepting of everything, apart from the screaming child in the bed opposite. All credit to the nurses though - I went and explained how much he hates crying and although they were really busy they moved her out, so we were in a bay to ourselves.

Am exhausted and now I have to take DS1 to his school play evening performance. I saw it this afternoon and it was lovely (DS1 only drifted into dreamland a couple of times) but I REALLY don't want to go again.

Oh yes, and while we were in the hospital car park a van reversed into our car... I have to admit we sat there and laughed - what else is there to do?

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silverfrog · 11/12/2008 18:36

oh, sphil

I am sorry to hear about your mum too (haven't seen other thread - only just got back online after our move!)

sounds as though your ds2 did brillaintly at the hospital - you must be very proud.

I hope things go as smoothly as they possibly can.

Tclanger · 11/12/2008 18:49

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feelingbitfestive · 11/12/2008 18:54

Awwww. Bless you all. How crap

TotalChaos · 11/12/2008 19:05

what terrible timing, I hadn't seen your thread in health so didn't realise that your mum was unwell, sorry to hear that.

jimjamshaslefttheyurt · 11/12/2008 19:24

Oh my goodness sphil.

HAve they given him the extra tough plaster? When they thought ds1 might have broken his leg they said they would use that because then he could stand on it. I got some really good advice on here about various none plaster/different type plaster options - might be worth asking if the non weight bearing becomes a problem.

My friend's son (ASD - same age as DS2- actually they're very similar in lots of ways thinking about it) broke his arm very recently- plaster off next week I think. He very quickly adapted and once it stopped hurting (which does happen surprisingly quickly with breaks) he was fine- has coped very well.

magso · 11/12/2008 19:32

Oh Sphil , so sorry!

alfiemama · 11/12/2008 20:42

Oh sphil, that is crap, so sorry

MadLyCarrolingChristmasMouse · 11/12/2008 20:46

for you

mumgoingcrazy · 11/12/2008 20:50

Really sorry, that is seriously crap. Sorry to hear about your mum too. xx

kettlechip · 11/12/2008 21:33

What a total nightmare for you, so sorry.

RaggedRobin · 11/12/2008 21:44

how awful for you, when you have worries about your mum too.

ds just had plaster off after a broken arm which wasn't healing and had to be reset. he did a lot better than i expected, but a broken leg is so very much more difficult to deal with.

we actually found getting the cast off to be pretty traumatic, so when the time comes, if there's anything you can do to prepare/distract/soothe him, then i'd try to do it!

good luck with this and best wishes to your mum.

sphil · 11/12/2008 22:04

The plaster team suggested headphones, which I thought was sensitive of them. He's back home now - I came back from DS1's evening performance to find a very tired and miserable small boy slumped in a wheelchair. We've made up a bed for him downstairs and stuck another bed beside it so he can't fall out. I think we'll have to take it in turns to sleep in with him - and unfortunately tonight think it's going to have to be me, as he's been very clingy.

It's going to be a long six weeks...

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Saker · 11/12/2008 22:07

Sphil, someone was telling me the other day about a company that made covers for plasters so that they could go in water ok. His son had even gone in the sea with a broken arm. I can't remember the name but can probably find out if it would help at all - just thinking of showers / baths etc.

Just googled it, there seems to be a few e.g. here. I know you weren't specifically thinking of this as a problem but it might be useful to know.

Saker · 11/12/2008 22:12

Oh I really feel for you... wish I could think of something else that would help...

prettybutterfly · 11/12/2008 22:14

Hi, there's commiserating going on and I wanted to join in! What a hard time you're all having, and how brilliantly your ds is handling it. Well done to him, and you too. Hospital staff are really amazing at helping out, ime. They've really seen it all!
((you))
My ds1 has asd and ahdh and could have had a much worse time in hospital last year when he broke his arm, if it weren't for amazing, amazing paramedic, x-ray staff, pasterers etc... they were all fab. He actually almost enjoyed himself - after the painkillers took effect anyway!
xPB

sphil · 11/12/2008 22:28

Saker - thanks - sis-in-law is getting one for us as she is physio.

I think the worse thing is going to be the lack of physical exercise - DS2 loves physical play and it helps him sleep too.

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ouryve · 11/12/2008 23:13

Oh, bum and bum

ElectraInExcelsis · 11/12/2008 23:27

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amber32002 · 12/12/2008 07:20

Sphil, heck! Well, that was my third choice of word . Having just had a teenage son in plaster who's been unable to play his sports for four months now and counting (and desperately needs to do so to help with his concentration), I can relate to this to some extent. How's he coping today?

macwoozy · 12/12/2008 07:58

What a crap time you're having

sphil · 12/12/2008 09:05

He didn't have too bad a night, apart from waking up from time to time to say 'change nappy' (which I assumed meant 'take this plaster off', as his nappy was perfectly dry). In a bit of pain but much more comfortable this morning. Thank goodness he likes watching TV and using the computer! And thank goodness he's a bit easier to lift than I thought - I can do it on my own, so that will make things a bit more flexible here.

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jenk1 · 12/12/2008 10:02

aw no sphil,im so sorry to hear about your mum and your DS breaking his leg.

jen
xx

bullet123 · 12/12/2008 10:25

Sorry all this is happening Sphil .

TinySocks · 12/12/2008 10:45

Sphil, so sorry to hear about your mum, stay strong. Things always happen at the same time for some reason.
I think you are right, sounds like it will be a long six weeks for your DS!! All I can say is TV is your friend.
Sending you a hug.

RaggedRobin · 12/12/2008 10:48

my ds sleeps with me anyway, and the downside of a broken arm is that the bridge of my nose took the brunt of his arm flailing at night! [ouch emoticon]

i was amazed that ds didn't ask to have the cast off constantly. he did ask a couple of times towards the end but it turned out that he had a really nasty blister that had burst under the plaster and i think it had started to become uncomfortable.

sounds like you are all coping well - troopers!