paed has just made me feel like a sh*t neurotic mum.[angry]

[nuttyredhead]

Hi all,
Hell its like walking up hill with a lead weight tied round your feet!!.
Posted earlier this week re,having problems with school not listening to me and ds needs. DS coming home and is so frustrated,irritable,tantrums,angry and unhappy.He is fine in school and this is where my problem is.
I have spoke to senco and they will get "ed psyc" in but will be next year!.Just spoke to my paed and he said he could not help and did not think school work would be causing this behaviour.WOW now i feel so neurotic and i am questioning my parenting skills.
Ds has a diag of Dyspraxia.
Am i loosing it i feel so disheartened.So had enough of the system,it stinks.

Sounds horrible for you. Sorry I can't help but hope someone who can finds this after bump.

Sorry you're having such a tough time. I think it can be quite common for SN kids to be really good at school and then lose it at home...my DD does this. Can't help but sending hugs.

Sorry you are having problems getting help - that does stink. Don't question your parenting skills! My ds can be hell at home and sweetness and light at school and then the next week it will be the other way around - for him the frustration etc. has to come out sometime! Sorry I don't know where you go if your paed and senco aren't much help, apart from keep on at them and don't be fobbed off...

Hopefully someone on here will have some kick-ass ideas

Hi Nutty,

I really feel for you, because we have been in the same situation for a long time. DD1 has sensory processing disorder and has been going through hell at school. Like your ds, she 'appears' to cope at school -she is very passive and compliant there. However, also like your ds, she has meltdowns at home and I struggle to handle the fallout from school.
I know how utterly infuriating and frustrating the school system can be -we have battled for support for 3 years and are now on the verge of Home Educating dd. In fact, she has been at home for the last 3 days, as her stress levels were awful.

Please don't be afraid to trust your instincts -I know a few children with SN who work really hard at keeping it together at school and teachers struggle to see their issues. I think that your ds' behaviour at home may indicate problems at school, but I am definitely no expert .

I think the wait for an ed psych may be quite 'challenging'for your ds. Does he have an OT? I only ask because dd's OT is really supportive in school and has added her professional voice to mine IYKWIM?
Like you, I think school just viewed me as an over anxious parent for a long time. However, dd's self esteem and SPD has become such an issue that they are eventually listening (just in time for me to de register her )

You are your child's best advocate, and I have found that being a PITA at school now comes with the territory! Keep your chin up - I hope you manage to get your ds the help he needs.

Sorry the paed could not help. I have forgotten how old your son is, but my son used to be quite challenging after school- particularly at collection. I really think that he was stressed, confused and exhausted and was like a primed bomb ready to blow once mum was there to pick up the pieces!!! I did find that meeting him with a snack and waiting till the busle of the other kids were gone helped (to reduce his strops - and my blushes) before attempting to walk home. I got so dispirited with the homework strops we kept them for weekends only! He is 9 now and attends a wonderful sn school - who understand him and exspect with realism - so life is much calmer!! His self esteeme is better and he is less 'tetchy'!
Do not loose faith in yourself or your child.